Anonymous wrote:What do you think God wants you to do with your life?

Be happy with someone, if there are kids have a good home for them. Pretty sure God doesn’t want you to hate life.

What do you think God wants you to do with your life?

What were your marriage vows? If I know I can give appropriate advice.

I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Let me tell you that you are valuable, important, a person worth of dignity. Even in the darkest moments of your marriage, there’s always hope. Perhaps have you thought that you can help yourself with marriage counseling. Counseling can be helpful to work through things like this. You and your husband are valuable and worth fighting for.” Therapy can help you to identify what you feel in that way. You are able to change things in your marriage for the good. Did you know when people got married they bring their own luggage, that there are the wounds from their own families. Please, let me tell you that you are not alone. Things happen for a reason. Please, it is a hard situation that you are living now, but do not feel discourage. Hang it there!! Please do not give up! There is no perfect persons so there’s no perfect marriage, however, your marriage is something worth fighting for. Courageous couples are those who ask help for a third part. Do you have a belief or system to go through things like this? I do not know whether if you believe in God, but I will keep you in my prayers, my friend . – keep us posted, OK?

Anonymous wrote:Individual counseling will help you navigate through the choices that got you here, and help you decide objectively whether to stay or leave. You could consider marital counseling too, but individual therapy focuses on you, and not solely the issues of the relationship so it is good to have.

OP, do you have children?

Thank you- I would like to get into indiv therapy. Please can anyone recommend their dc therapist? Bonus points if they take fed BCBS...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Np when you are that miserable with your partner the sex sucks

True for women, but usually not for men. This disparity usually adds to the marital suckage for both.

Really? I didn't realize. N of 1 over here.

Anonymous wrote:Np when you are that miserable with your partner the sex sucks

True for women, but usually not for men. This disparity usually adds to the marital suckage for both.

Individual counseling will help you navigate through the choices that got you here, and help you decide objectively whether to stay or leave. You could consider marital counseling too, but individual therapy focuses on you, and not solely the issues of the relationship so it is good to have.

OP, do you have children?

Don't be like my sister. I walked out of a bad marriage which was nothing like hers ( just unhappy, not abusive), and I knew her husband was emotionally abusive and controlling, not to mention cheating on her with more than one woman. I asked why she didn't leave and she sighed and said "It's easier to stay than to go." She's still in that marriage, he hasn't changed, and I've lived my life the way I wanted. This was 17 years ago. I hurt for her, but I cannot help her. She occasionally tells me she's waiting for him? to die of a heart attack since he's in bad health. What a miserable way to live.

Np when you are that miserable with your partner the sex sucks

Any dc therapist recommendations?

How's the sex?

Anonymous wrote:I want out of my marriage. I keep convincing myself things will change- I’ll change, he’ll change, something. I can find happy loving moments, but I’m almost bipolar about it. One day I want out, the next day things are ok, the next day I’m quietly crying myself to sleep. I know I’m
Not happy and I can’t/shouldn’t do this for a lifetime. I’m too scared to leave. Scared of change. Ashamed at what people would say. I don’t have the courage or the guts. I know I’m not stuck, but I don’t think I have the courage to do it.

You're Female, right?

Start seeing a therapist.

I want out of my marriage. I keep convincing myself things will change- I’ll change, he’ll change, something. I can find happy loving moments, but I’m almost bipolar about it. One day I want out, the next day things are ok, the next day I’m quietly crying myself to sleep. I know I’m
Not happy and I can’t/shouldn’t do this for a lifetime. I’m too scared to leave. Scared of change. Ashamed at what people would say. I don’t have the courage or the guts. I know I’m not stuck, but I don’t think I have the courage to do it.