Anonymous wrote:Old school here. Only showers for first babies—-unless a significany large gap between kids—like 10 years.

But didn't you have luncheons with friends to celebrate #2? Even my grandma did that in the 1950s

Old school here. Only showers for first babies—-unless a significany large gap between kids—like 10 years.

It's not a big deal. I'm not a fan of sprinkles just because I have so little time to myself and don't find it the most fun setting for getting together with friends. But if it is really something a friend wants to do, I'll go and bring a little gift.

I think when a second child is a different sex than the first people feel compelled to get new stuff. Like, the blue and green rock n play isn't acceptable for a girl, she needs pink (or vice versa). I think that's silly and a good reason to stick to more gender neutral things for your first if you're thinking of having more but when you have a girl first the pink frilly stuff gets to you one way or another.

I think tacky is having a full on baby shower. If it's really just a "let's celebrate this upcoming new baby because we love our friend" then go and bring a small gift.

OP, if you don't want to go, then don't go. There, done.

You're awful. It's a chance to celebrate your friend and her coming baby. My friends and I all threw small "sprinkles" for each other's second kids. Nothing elaborate but fun. For one friend, those of us with older boys, younger girls, gathered up our nicest hand-me-downs for a friend who was having a baby boy after having a girl. We ate cake and talked and laughed. IT'S NICE.

In my circle of friends we do this for 2nd babies. Normally everyone chips in $5 and the organizer buys some cute new basic clothes for the baby and puts the rest on a gift card. Then we get together for brunch just to celebrate the new baby.

If you don't like this woman or don't like the concept just send your regrets. It's honestly not that big of a deal.

Anonymous wrote:Ah, baby tinkles... Millennial women never get tired of these!

OP, you don't have to go. Just say you're busy. It's not an obligation. Although it's funny you're friends with a person who'd put so much weight on this nonsense.

These are events thrown FOR the pregnant women. She isn't the one planning it.

I'm pregnant with #2 and my best friends and I are going for a spa day to celebrate. It wasn't my idea, but they all want to see me before the baby is born. I'm paying my own way.

I went to a sprinkle and gave a picture and felt like a piker. Everyone else gave large gifts, like multiple outfits, blankets, towel sets --

Ah, baby tinkles... Millennial women never get tired of these!

OP, you don't have to go. Just say you're busy. It's not an obligation. Although it's funny you're friends with a person who'd put so much weight on this nonsense.

Don't get all riled up until you get a link to a registry. Then get pissed. If it's just a celebration of the new baby, bring a small gift and celebrate. If you don't want to celebrate the new baby, or if you feel it is just a gift grab then don't go.

At work we are having a shower for our admin person even though it is her second child. She does so much for us that we want to recognize her and help her out with all the stuff she needs since her first child is 8 and she's given all of her stuff away. She'd never ask or expect anything.

Not sure what the big deal is? Sprinkle usually doesn't involve big gifts - just the trinket that you would have bought your friend regardless. I threw a sprinkle for a good friend's second baby because i liked her a lot and i wanted to do something nice to celebrate the fact that she was having a baby. We said no gifts on the invite, but asked everyone to bring diapers (friend and her husband were really tight on cash). Some people brought gifts beyond that, but it was not the norm. It was a perfectly fine nice event and did not seem like a gift grab.

What a nasty response. I'd assume if you were invited that this person was a close friend/relative and you'd bring her a stuffed animal or a onesie when you visit for the first time anyways? People spend like $15 on sprinkle gifts.

I do think it's tacky, but your response is even tackier and cattier.

Usually a sprinkle is just a celebration and does not involve a registry / gifts

This person has a 2 year old girl and is pregnant with a boy this time. Is a baby sprinkle like a Lite Baby Shower? First I’ve ever heard of one.

The evite was vague and more of a save the date really. More details forthcoming.

I’m waiting for the day when someone has the guts to send an evite that’s just “we don’t want to buy our own shit, so buy us something off this list and come get rewarded with cake at blah on blah date!”