Your poor daughter! Leave her in peace

PP again- I wouldn't worry about not wanting to hang around mall etc. Isn't that what kids did in the 80's?

I have heard about so many social issues with regards to drugs, alcohol etc- that I'm happy she sticks close by to us.

This is my daughter. She's a straight A student in a high pressure school and she hardly texts at ALL.

When she has major tests, she is not pleasant to be around but I think that's test anxiety.

Overall she's a very sweet kid.

My DS is similar.... I too worry that he's not running around with friends, but so many people have assured me so few kids are. FWIW, I see very few kids in our mall.

DS is also like me, pretty choosy about who he hangs out with. We both prefer to put our energy into people who "get" us and have a particular personality. Which isn't meant as a put down on anyone, it's actually rather limiting and I'd like to be more open. But it's just how DS and I are built.

Anonymous wrote:Op here yes socializing with Family but also likes alone time. Just feeling like she’s being left out bc all these kids are hanging together on these social apps like Snapchat and she doesn’t even use any of it or do any of that. Maybe they are jerks you are right . It’s a weird age

Does she feel left out, or do you feel that she's left out?

Anonymous wrote:Op here yes socializing with Family but also likes alone time. Just feeling like she’s being left out bc all these kids are hanging together on these social apps like Snapchat and she doesn’t even use any of it or do any of that. Maybe they are jerks you are right . It’s a weird age

My guess is she is being left out on purpose or shut out hence the they are all jerks comment.
She might not understand exactly what is going on when she uses the apps or how to use them. I know, I know, all teens just know these things! Guess what? Not all just figure it out.

Op no social anxiety at all just not interested in malls, and goffingh around with big group of kids right nos

Does she have social anxiety?

Anonymous wrote:That’s my point she doesn’t even socialize with her phone when other kids are. Also feel she’s being negative about social stuff when calling kids jerks

Kids are jerks

Op here yes socializing with Family but also likes alone time. Just feeling like she’s being left out bc all these kids are hanging together on these social apps like Snapchat and she doesn’t even use any of it or do any of that. Maybe they are jerks you are right . It’s a weird age

Anonymous wrote:That’s my point she doesn’t even socialize with her phone when other kids are. Also feel she’s being negative about social stuff when calling kids jerks

Yes, but is she socializing with her family? To me, that would be better than always on the phone. Also, maybe they are jerks. How would you know?

That’s my point she doesn’t even socialize with her phone when other kids are. Also feel she’s being negative about social stuff when calling kids jerks

Anonymous wrote:A little concerned about my daughter..

She has a small group of friends at school but on weekends she doesn’t want to socialize with anyone. She doesn’t call or text. She is busy with school activities. Also made a comment that most of kids at school are jerks. I worry bc it seems like her age are hanging out and going to mall etc. not sure how to approach this.

Is she happy? If so, than leave her alone! It is her life and not yours so let her choose how she wants to live her life. What would you actually do? Would you call up her friends to hang out?

More common than you realize. They socialize with phones now.

A little concerned about my daughter..

She has a small group of friends at school but on weekends she doesn’t want to socialize with anyone. She doesn’t call or text. She is busy with school activities. Also made a comment that most of kids at school are jerks. I worry bc it seems like her age are hanging out and going to mall etc. not sure how to approach this.