Anonymous wrote:Don't feel guilt, feel gratitude for this amazing second chance you have.

Thank you

I do see a therapist from time-to-time. My wife suggested to go talk to him about it.

OP, your son is OK. You are not a bad parent, but you and DW need to learn from this and figure out a way to know where your kid is when you are backing out the car. Just do that and be grateful that the situation was not much worse.

As parents, all of us make mistakes. Please try to take learning from this experience, forgive yourself, and move on. If you cannot do that, please contact your doctor because you should be referred to someone who can help you. The guilt you feel does nothing but bring you down and make you a less effective parent.

I know two people (in a roundabout way) who caused the deaths of their children and their actions were absolutely stupid and unforgivable. They made conscious decisions that resulted in death. You did not do that, OP. Don't feel guilt, feel gratitude for this amazing second chance you have.

In case this helps with anxiety until you can get a back up camera, back in to your garage. You’ll be paying more attention then instead of tote pulling out.

Above all, he is alive.

He is ok.

You will be ok.

Please talk with someone about this. Do you have an EAP at work?

That’s horrifying OP, and I’m so glad your son is ok. Try to give yourself room to feel guilt without beating yourself up. I second (or third) the idea of seeing someone, just for a while maybe, to help you sort through this.

Anonymous wrote:One of my worst nightmares. Do you have a backup camera? All I can say is try to see a therapist.

Not on this car. On our other car we do. Might be time to sort that out.

You're going to be effed-up for a long time from this. It can happen to anyone. Try not to remember this. And when your head goes toward replaying it over and over again, remember, it's a choice to think about it or not. Don't. Try to box up that memory and bury the shit out of it.

One of my worst nightmares. Do you have a backup camera? All I can say is try to see a therapist.

That’s terrifying. I’m so glad your child is ok. I had a neighbor who somehow fell on her kid while ice skating and broke both of the little girls femurs. It was very traumatic for the family.

Don’t be ashamed to get counseling. It’s a neutral person who you can get your fears out to.

This is more common than you think. Usually, the children die. You are very, very lucky, and should never assume again that your son isn't out there.

OMG that is terrifying. I'm glad he's okay.

I am glad your son is okay!

That is incredibly terrifying. I'd get treated for PTSD.

* I knew I'd hit him from my wife screaming.

Two days ago I was backing my car out of the garage, and next thing my wife is screaming at me to stop.

I knew I'd hit him, he's only 1. I got under the car and he was underneath, in the middle, crying, with his foot stuck.
I'd dragged him about 3 yards.

He appeared fine but I called an ambulance, and they checked him over, and then we took him to the doctor for a check up.

Thank God he is fine, it could have been so much worse. I keep playing out the scenario in my head and imagining much worse things.