Anonymous
01/20/2018 06:01
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
Anonymous wrote:The problem is YOU. You expect them to still be kids and they’re not, they’re teens. You need a parenting class.
Get your nose out of their homework and most everything else - stop inserting yourself into their lives and decisions so closely .
As for the verbal snark - expect that and again, adjust your expectations.
My DD is apparently a radiant angel honor student at school but when she comes home she’s literally a curse spitting devil sometimes. It’s rare that she’s so out of line that I would correct her or say something angry back, it just seems to be a necessary thing for teens. If they bottle that up way worse things happen.
Seriously stop being offended- it’s a natural thing. My mother STILL talks about how she hates/can’t stand teenagers and it’s been 25 years since she’s had a teen - and I can tell you that she is a controlling psycho bitch from hell with no emotional intelligence and no acceptance of other people who are different than her. Don’t be anything like her - please.
It's not her problem, she is right, teens are difficult and self centered. It take a lot of patience to get through the teen years. It's hard to be a teen, most of them are hormonal and are under a lot of social and academic pressure. They are miserable and insecure a lot of the time. So teens unleash it on a 'safe' person - mom. If you can get them through those years without them becoming parents, being on drugs or losing focus on the future (college) you've accomplished something. Hang in there!
Anonymous
01/19/2018 23:46
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
Mine are 15 and 13, too, OP.
Someone on DCUM helped me out a lot by recommending the book, "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!"
It's a lot calmer in the house now than before I read that book (and it was a fun read...for me, reading parenting books reading are a chore)
But I will tell you that as much as I love and at times really like my older one, I do think "only 3.5 more years until college" almost every day; it's my coping mechanism!
Someone on DCUM helped me out a lot by recommending the book, "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!"
It's a lot calmer in the house now than before I read that book (and it was a fun read...for me, reading parenting books reading are a chore)
But I will tell you that as much as I love and at times really like my older one, I do think "only 3.5 more years until college" almost every day; it's my coping mechanism!
Anonymous
01/19/2018 23:31
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
You are the parent and you are in charge of your household. That means you get to make the rules. Enforce consequences for bad behavior. If kids know you mean what you are saying, they will listen. You have to be strict, but fair.
It would have been easier if rules were enforced before they were teens.
It would have been easier if rules were enforced before they were teens.
Anonymous
01/19/2018 20:25
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
Anonymous wrote:I think teens are amazing! So are adults! It's the younger ones that seemed harder to me. I have the most fun with my teens, and my three boys, before they grew up, were so much fun. Our favorite thing was to drive around and talk with the music all the way up (it helps if you enjoy the same type of music, which I do). Loosen up, and enjoy them, for time is fleeting.
Gee - that ‘my family and especially me’ is perfect brag of yours probably helped her a lot!
Anonymous
01/19/2018 20:23
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
The problem is YOU. You expect them to still be kids and they’re not, they’re teens. You need a parenting class.
Get your nose out of their homework and most everything else - stop inserting yourself into their lives and decisions so closely .
As for the verbal snark - expect that and again, adjust your expectations.
My DD is apparently a radiant angel honor student at school but when she comes home she’s literally a curse spitting devil sometimes. It’s rare that she’s so out of line that I would correct her or say something angry back, it just seems to be a necessary thing for teens. If they bottle that up way worse things happen.
Seriously stop being offended- it’s a natural thing. My mother STILL talks about how she hates/can’t stand teenagers and it’s been 25 years since she’s had a teen - and I can tell you that she is a controlling psycho bitch from hell with no emotional intelligence and no acceptance of other people who are different than her. Don’t be anything like her - please.
Get your nose out of their homework and most everything else - stop inserting yourself into their lives and decisions so closely .
As for the verbal snark - expect that and again, adjust your expectations.
My DD is apparently a radiant angel honor student at school but when she comes home she’s literally a curse spitting devil sometimes. It’s rare that she’s so out of line that I would correct her or say something angry back, it just seems to be a necessary thing for teens. If they bottle that up way worse things happen.
Seriously stop being offended- it’s a natural thing. My mother STILL talks about how she hates/can’t stand teenagers and it’s been 25 years since she’s had a teen - and I can tell you that she is a controlling psycho bitch from hell with no emotional intelligence and no acceptance of other people who are different than her. Don’t be anything like her - please.
Anonymous
01/19/2018 19:36
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
Little kids, little problems. Big kids, big problems.
Anonymous
01/18/2018 10:52
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
Anonymous wrote:
I'm sorry.
My kids are lovely, personality-wise, but one of them has special needs of a nature that DRIVES ME CRAZY. I yelled at him this morning. Really lost it. His severe inattentive ADHD is making my life miserable, and there is no recourse in the morning since his meds don't kick in yet (and shouldn't, otherwise he wouldn't be able to eat his breakfast and goodness knows he's tiny). Ugh. I want to punch the wall sometimes, or yell and run out of the house.
I’m the OP I hear ya my two teens have ADHD, as does my husband. I may too but honestly I have to keep it all together for them! I also have depression and anxiety - medicated- and I think they may need to get evaluated too.
Anonymous
01/18/2018 10:45
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
I'm sorry.
My kids are lovely, personality-wise, but one of them has special needs of a nature that DRIVES ME CRAZY. I yelled at him this morning. Really lost it. His severe inattentive ADHD is making my life miserable, and there is no recourse in the morning since his meds don't kick in yet (and shouldn't, otherwise he wouldn't be able to eat his breakfast and goodness knows he's tiny). Ugh. I want to punch the wall sometimes, or yell and run out of the house.
Anonymous
01/18/2018 10:40
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
Anonymous
01/18/2018 10:38
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
I have a toddler and I could have written this same post re: dreading mornings and evenings, moodiness, refusal to do what she's supposed to, awful music, etc.
How can we keep ourselves SANE!?!
How can we keep ourselves SANE!?!
Anonymous
01/18/2018 10:05
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
I think teens are amazing! So are adults! It's the younger ones that seemed harder to me. I have the most fun with my teens, and my three boys, before they grew up, were so much fun. Our favorite thing was to drive around and talk with the music all the way up (it helps if you enjoy the same type of music, which I do). Loosen up, and enjoy them, for time is fleeting.
Anonymous
01/18/2018 08:07
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
I just told my mom I hate teenagers lol. Mine are 16,14 and almost 13. I am on a count down to when they all leave home. I know, that’s terrible! You are not alone OP.
Anonymous
01/18/2018 05:35
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
15 and 13
Anonymous
01/18/2018 05:28
Subject: Re:My teens are making me so unhappy!
It will pass (but I wouldn’t put up for a second with my kids putting me down—that’s when the phones and other electronics get taken away). How old are they?
Anonymous
01/18/2018 05:20
Subject: My teens are making me so unhappy!
Every day I dread the mornings and evenings. The moodiness, refusal to get homework done in a timely way, their lack of motivation, the awful music, I have one that rarely showers, another that puts me down all the time, etc. they are making me crazy!