I try to eat healthy food and I don't drink much alcohol. DH accepts me as I am and I love him for that. Plus, since I can drive, he's able to indulge at the bar when he wishes.

I do think it's a boundary issue for her to criticize you for eating candy. But if I were you, I'd just choose to eat my candy when she's not around. Keep it on the DL like porn or whatever private hobbies you have. Good luck, buddy.

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf?!?! She has a serious metabolic illness that increases her chances of diabetes, infertility, heart disease, and dementia. Eating a low carb diet is absolutely essential to her health. That means no pizza, no beer, no CANDY, you jerk.

This is not about her weight. It is about her whole LIFE. Do you know how serious PCOS is??? It's a disease of insulin resistance. Any kind of sugar or starch or carb is literally like poison to her in the long term. It sounds like she is coming to terms with this but you are seriously sabotaging her and endangering her health.

I hope she dumps you, you asshole.

Pcos is a hormone imbalance, it’s not an insulin resistant disease. You can become influential resistant, but it’s not automatic.

Hormonal symptoms of PCOS are caused by hyperinsulinemia. Chronically high insulin. It is metabolic disease, not a hormonal
One.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do eat what I want but she criticizes ( she calls it educating) about some oh the foods I eat. We both eat healthy during the week, but I like to indulge on the weekends. She does indulge but with healthier options. I don’t think she has an eating disorder as she eats a normal amount ( typically we both eat oatmeal with bananas for breakfast, smoothie for snack, large salad with guacamole and chips on the side, fruit or green juice as a snack, and most nights it’s chicken with veggies and a starch ( sweet potato, brown rice, quinoa, etc). Her healthy treat is trail mix. I love candy, but she is always talking about the sugar content, sat fat, and hidden trans fat in those foods. She is very worried about eating sat fat ( trans fat is deadly and eradicated from most foods) because her dad had heart surgery.

We have a lot of fun together. I love her but sometimes it’s annoying.

She doesn’t have an eating disorder and she does need to control HER diet due to PCOS but her lecturing you about what you eat sounds like a PITA...

You have to decide if you can live with her food/control issue or not. Unless, you can let it “roll off your back” it is going to cause a lot of problems in your relationship.

How long have you been together? Because generally everything is great in the beginning and goes downhill once you have more stressors like marriage, kids, etc.

Op, stop trying to control what she eats.

I don't drink but I can still go out to bars if others want to and I drink water. Others may perceive I therefore am not having fun if I am not drinking but that is not the case. Just because someone isnt drinking doesnt mean she isnt having fun.

Does she try to control what YOU eat? That is a different story. But why would you buy her candy for halloween when you know it isnt good for her? Stop focusing on this. It's controlling and critical of you.

Anonymous wrote:Wtf?!?! She has a serious metabolic illness that increases her chances of diabetes, infertility, heart disease, and dementia. Eating a low carb diet is absolutely essential to her health. That means no pizza, no beer, no CANDY, you jerk.

This is not about her weight. It is about her whole LIFE. Do you know how serious PCOS is??? It's a disease of insulin resistance. Any kind of sugar or starch or carb is literally like poison to her in the long term. It sounds like she is coming to terms with this but you are seriously sabotaging her and endangering her health.

I hope she dumps you, you asshole.

Pcos is a hormone imbalance, it’s not an insulin resistant disease. You can become influential resistant, but it’s not automatic.

Op here. I do eat what I want but she criticizes ( she calls it educating) about some oh the foods I eat. We both eat healthy during the week, but I like to indulge on the weekends. She does indulge but with healthier options. I don’t think she has an eating disorder as she eats a normal amount ( typically we both eat oatmeal with bananas for breakfast, smoothie for snack, large salad with guacamole and chips on the side, fruit or green juice as a snack, and most nights it’s chicken with veggies and a starch ( sweet potato, brown rice, quinoa, etc). Her healthy treat is trail mix. I love candy, but she is always talking about the sugar content, sat fat, and hidden trans fat in those foods. She is very worried about eating sat fat ( trans fat is deadly and eradicated from most foods) because her dad had heart surgery.

We have a lot of fun together. I love her but sometimes it’s annoying.

Wtf?!?! She has a serious metabolic illness that increases her chances of diabetes, infertility, heart disease, and dementia. Eating a low carb diet is absolutely essential to her health. That means no pizza, no beer, no CANDY, you jerk.

This is not about her weight. It is about her whole LIFE. Do you know how serious PCOS is??? It's a disease of insulin resistance. Any kind of sugar or starch or carb is literally like poison to her in the long term. It sounds like she is coming to terms with this but you are seriously sabotaging her and endangering her health.

I hope she dumps you, you asshole.

Seriously, it will just get more annoying and you will get more resentful the longer you keep seeing her.

People can eat whatever they want but making their eating quirks an issue for others gets really old really fast.

Find another girlfriend. Yes, there are fit, thin women out there without food issues.

I have a gluten allergy (& other food allergies like shrimp). I break out in hives and get swollen (yup, like the episode in the show, The Nanny) . Benedryl & an epi pen are my constant companions. I very rarely drink . I have also lost a lot of weight a few years ago and I have managed to keep most, but not all of it. (and it is a struggle as I have gotten older)

BUT, I do NOT restrict other people from what they can eat. I go to bars with DH, and I get a soda and still laugh and have fun. I go to restaurants, including Italian, but I go to one where they have something that I can order gluten free & and nonallergic for me, without constantly discussing it. (I check menus on-line before going out. Steak and potato is always available). I never tell anyone else what they can eat or drink, including DH (& I never discuss his weight).

If you feel her food restrictions are stopping you from enjoying yourself, you really should break it off. I suspect she has some disordered thinking when it comes to food. If you are insistent that she be very thin and fit, you may actually be affecting her self-esteem which may be fueling her disordered thinking. (If I gain weight, he will not love me). Also if you are fighting now, what happens, when you get older, get busy with work, have kids, and gain 20 lbs?
There are too many big things to get into arguments about (like kids- God bless them), you don't want to fight every weekend the rest of your life. (But you KNEW this down deep- that's why you posted here)

She must be awfully pretty for you to put up with this. If you didn’t mind a girl with a few extra pounds, you might find a girl who likes to eat.

Anonymous wrote:Ask her (not when you're hungry) to give you a list of places she will go to eat where she can happily find things to eat that she likes.

This.

If she can't do this she just has an eating disorder

or

She's a difficult drama queen.

Ask her (not when you're hungry) to give you a list of places she will go to eat where she can happily find things to eat that she likes.

Sorry she can't eat all the shit you do. Do you know anything about PCOS? Don't be an assh*le. Have you tried talking to her about it? Do you not know how to have fin without drinking? Leaen how to cook, that might solve some of your problems.

TBH, a lot of women have to be this strict in order to lose or maintain weight... this is why it’s so hard, because you have to alter your social life. However she should be able to have fun without drinking and find something at each place to eat - a Greek salad at the pizza place, etc.

This is just a vent. My girlfriend is very strict with her eating habits. She used to suffer from pcos and weight issues a couple do years before we met. She reversed it and lossy the weight by eating very healthy and exercise. I’m a fit guy who loves being healthy and active, but she takes it to the extreme, and it’s really hard keeping up with her standards. Every eeekdn it’s a batttle do where to eat because she can’t eat this or that. I am happy that she is taking care of herself, but I don’t know how long I can deal with this. She does have a gluten allergy but doesn’t eat dairy ( or very little), anything processed, and no meat besides chicken. I bought her candy for Halloween and she refused to eat because of the unhealthy fats, sugar, and chemicals. I suggest pizza, but no because too much diary and tomatoes are very inflammatory to the body. I suggest going out the bar with friends, and we go, but I know she won’t have a good time because she rarely drinks ( maybe a glass of red wine once a month). I wonder if anyone else can relate.