Anonymous wrote:I certainly think Love Actually is creepy now.

I always thought Love Actually was pretty creepy.

In Rom Coms, we already know the ending, so we brush them off - we know at the end of the movie they actually like each other and will get together. But I don't know how people can confuse the same predicaments for real real life situations. It's sweet in the move because we already know it's written with mutual interest. Partially sane people know that is not how things are in actuality, in the real world.

I certainly think Love Actually is creepy now.

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Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand the difference between a movie, and real life.

For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand that movies inform how we perceive and feel, especially when the process of inculturation via movie begins almost in the cradle.

First of all, it's "enculturation."

And sure, of course there's a connection between culture and entertainment. But I know I'm not going to kiss a frog and get a prince. Movies - including romcoms, are about imagination - not reality. If you can't distinguish between the two, I honestly don't know what to say. But that's not normal. Myths, stories, and fantasies have existed long before movies and are innate to human imagination - but the vast majority of people know that actions in those stories is not a mirror for actions in real life. It just doesn't work that way, for a myriad of reasons.

This is OP and what you're saying goes at the heart of my question. Will our imaginations change, will how we think of romance and what is romantic change? Like the PPs above who no longer want to watch certain types of movies now that she sees them in a new light.

But why does our imagination have to change? Imagination is not reality. It's not real life. There's nothing wrong with having an active imagination that's filled with ridiculousness and idealism, knowing full well that that's also not how things work in real life.

I get not wanting to watch the old movies - hell, I still cringe sometimes when listening to "Baby it's cold outside" - if you can enjoy something for what it is, a story, and not read more, and not blur it as real life, then an imagination is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand the difference between a movie, and real life.

For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand that movies inform how we perceive and feel, especially when the process of inculturation via movie begins almost in the cradle.

First of all, it's "enculturation."

And sure, of course there's a connection between culture and entertainment. But I know I'm not going to kiss a frog and get a prince. Movies - including romcoms, are about imagination - not reality. If you can't distinguish between the two, I honestly don't know what to say. But that's not normal. Myths, stories, and fantasies have existed long before movies and are innate to human imagination - but the vast majority of people know that actions in those stories is not a mirror for actions in real life. It just doesn't work that way, for a myriad of reasons.

This is OP and what you're saying goes at the heart of my question. Will our imaginations change, will how we think of romance and what is romantic change? Like the PPs above who no longer want to watch certain types of movies now that she sees them in a new light.

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Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand the difference between a movie, and real life.

For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand that movies inform how we perceive and feel, especially when the process of inculturation via movie begins almost in the cradle.

First of all, it's "enculturation."

And sure, of course there's a connection between culture and entertainment. But I know I'm not going to kiss a frog and get a prince. Movies - including romcoms, are about imagination - not reality. If you can't distinguish between the two, I honestly don't know what to say. But that's not normal. Myths, stories, and fantasies have existed long before movies and are innate to human imagination - but the vast majority of people know that actions in those stories is not a mirror for actions in real life. It just doesn't work that way, for a myriad of reasons.

Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand the difference between a movie, and real life.

Yep. OP might as well ask, "after that horrible shooting in Newtown, do you think we'll see a change in shoot-em-up type movies?"

Um, no. Movies are fantasy.

I sure hope so!
But that's not even a big deal.

The big deal are the old movies with sycophantic women and men in roles of protector/aggressor. I can't bear to watch those anymore.

Anonymous wrote:The new movies will be all the guys like a sex robot while the girls and transgenders have a circular firing squad of snark in the democrat restroom.

Go back to Reddit. They are your people.

There will be no more rom-coms. Movies will be about women knowing that loving oneself is all that you need.

Sure changes the way I view movies I once enjoyed.

Remember Revenge of the Nerds? Sexual assault scene where they make the victim so sexually enthralled that she ends up with her rapist.

Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand the difference between a movie, and real life.

For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand that movies inform how we perceive and feel, especially when the process of inculturation via movie begins almost in the cradle.

The new movies will be all the guys like a sex robot while the girls and transgenders have a circular firing squad of snark in the democrat restroom.

Check out Outlander to see how to make chivalry and consent super hot.

For the life of me I'll never understand how people can't understand the difference between a movie, and real life.

The kind where the guy* pursues and pursues and pursues the girl and finally gets her and they (presumably) live happily ever after?

*It's usually a guy but not always. And it starts young. My kid watch this horrible show - I don't recall the name but it's about a group of mostly rich tween/teen kids at a summer camp - and there's a girl who has a crush on one of the boys and is VERY creepy, IMO, towards that guy. Of course, it's all played for laughs, but I was wondering if you think this type of thing will change. I hope so.