Anonymous wrote:Revenge served hot:
1. I aired all our dirty laundry to one of the executive admins at his job knowing she would spread anything I told her.
Revenge served warm:
2. Told him I wanted to work things out and got him into marriage counseling and just when he thought things were settled down I served him papers while he was at lunch with clients. Awkward!
Revenge served cold:
3. Years after the divorce I found out he was getting remarried so I sued for a custodial modification by serving him on the morning of the wedding and also asking for more child support.
4. I also saved up all the medical bills for months and had a few thousand dollars of reimbursement receipts delivered to him the day they returned from their honeymoon.
5. A month into the case I dropped my attorney and started calling his attorney every day to discuss various things because I knew his lawyer was charging $500 per hour. I did that for several months until just before the hearing and I dropped the case. It cost him around 20 grand. I know this caused a lot of problems for him during their first year of marriage. It also made the kids upset with him because he didn't have money for their Christmas and birthdays.
6. Occasionally I'll agree to extended summer vacations for the kids and then play "hard to get" concerning the pickup and drop off dates. This really pisses him off when he needs to buy airline tickets because he can't really make reservations for anything until that gets worked out. He likes to make reservations in advance.
This isn't revenge, it's stupidity. You're actively wasting resources that could be used for your kids. And yes, you're the "psycho ex" everyone talks about.