Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:57
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
I would have said something like "Ray! So good to see you, How is Mary doing?" and watched, and waited. He would have said she was fine, and not known if I would have told Mary or not. He could squirm indefinitely until I saw Mary, or told her himself. I would hope he would tell her.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:55
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Anonymous wrote:I notice that women agonize over informing the DW but men couldn't give a shit. Kinda like a 'bros before hos' thing, and I wonder if it makes more sense to take their approach instead of worrying about someone else's marriage. You're not his keeper.
OP here. My husband does care as well. We know it's ultimately none of our business. I don't know what goes on behind closed doors in others' homes although I don't get the sense that his wife would be ok with this. I just was curious what the thought process is behind going to a restaurant 15 minutes from your house with your mistress, showing PDA and not worrying about getting caught by someone who knows you. Is he just past the point of giving a shit?
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:52
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
I think the op is just shocked that someone would be so flagrant with cheating and not to make more of an effort not to be seen by people he knows. Plus, it makes neighborhood get togethers AWKWARD.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:51
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
If I were the wife of this man I would want to know.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:45
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Anonymous wrote:Maybe they have an open marriage. Just MYOB.
Then the note won't hurt her. She can tell him to rein himself in a little bit, to keep things elegant.
And if she doesn't know, you'll be doing her a huge favor.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:42
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Anonymous wrote:No good can come from this. You don't know their arrangement or situation. The only time you tell is if it's your sister, close relative, or one of your best friends. Otherwise, stay out of it.
My guess it was, in fact, a colleague so the "work function" excuse wasn't a lie. He just wasn't telling you the whole truth.
My dear, we weren't worried about whether that was a lie or not.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:40
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
No good can come from this. You don't know their arrangement or situation. The only time you tell is if it's your sister, close relative, or one of your best friends. Otherwise, stay out of it.
My guess it was, in fact, a colleague so the "work function" excuse wasn't a lie. He just wasn't telling you the whole truth.
My guess it was, in fact, a colleague so the "work function" excuse wasn't a lie. He just wasn't telling you the whole truth.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:38
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We were at a restaurant and I saw them but they didn't see me since we were sat in different rooms of the restaurant. They were talking closely and kissed a few times. Definitely not friendly/platonic kissing. I went to the bathroom before we left and ran into him as he came out of the men's room. He was friendly and told me he was there for a work function. WTF. I'm friendly with his wife but not good friends. Our kids play together in the neighborhood.
DH and I know it's none of our business but why would someone choose to be seen in public with their affair partner or whoever she is? Does he really just not give a shit? This was a restaurant 15 minutes from our neighborhood.
his DW is low libido and he has reached the end of his rope.
And you think it's OK to flaunt like this?
It's more likely he's bipolar or something.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:36
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Maybe they have an open marriage. Just MYOB.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:35
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Anonymous wrote:We were at a restaurant and I saw them but they didn't see me since we were sat in different rooms of the restaurant. They were talking closely and kissed a few times. Definitely not friendly/platonic kissing. I went to the bathroom before we left and ran into him as he came out of the men's room. He was friendly and told me he was there for a work function. WTF. I'm friendly with his wife but not good friends. Our kids play together in the neighborhood.
DH and I know it's none of our business but why would someone choose to be seen in public with their affair partner or whoever she is? Does he really just not give a shit? This was a restaurant 15 minutes from our neighborhood.
his DW is low libido and he has reached the end of his rope.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:26
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Anonymous wrote:I notice that women agonize over informing the DW but men couldn't give a shit. Kinda like a 'bros before hos' thing, and I wonder if it makes more sense to take their approach instead of worrying about someone else's marriage. You're not his keeper.
Just for that - send the wife an anonymous note.
Sleazebag PP.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:23
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
I notice that women agonize over informing the DW but men couldn't give a shit. Kinda like a 'bros before hos' thing, and I wonder if it makes more sense to take their approach instead of worrying about someone else's marriage. You're not his keeper.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:19
Subject: Re:I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Hubris.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:19
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
Wow. He certainly made the best of it.
I'm not sure how you can tell the wife. Personally, were I her, I would want to know ASAP, but it would certainly make for a awkward conversation.
I'm not sure how you can tell the wife. Personally, were I her, I would want to know ASAP, but it would certainly make for a awkward conversation.
Anonymous
11/11/2017 23:15
Subject: I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife
We were at a restaurant and I saw them but they didn't see me since we were sat in different rooms of the restaurant. They were talking closely and kissed a few times. Definitely not friendly/platonic kissing. I went to the bathroom before we left and ran into him as he came out of the men's room. He was friendly and told me he was there for a work function. WTF. I'm friendly with his wife but not good friends. Our kids play together in the neighborhood.
DH and I know it's none of our business but why would someone choose to be seen in public with their affair partner or whoever she is? Does he really just not give a shit? This was a restaurant 15 minutes from our neighborhood.
DH and I know it's none of our business but why would someone choose to be seen in public with their affair partner or whoever she is? Does he really just not give a shit? This was a restaurant 15 minutes from our neighborhood.