Anonymous wrote:...on the relationship board?

I think 75% of the stories on the relationship board are BS posted by guys sitting in their mother's basement in their underwear under a bare lightbulb.

Do you have a lover?

Btw I left my cheating husband but if he had treated me with respect I probably would have stayed.

No. I'm not that into sex. I never was. Probably part of the problem.

He has always treated me with great respect beyond the cheating and telling me he had lost his sexual attraction to me after I had kids and had some cancer. He wasn't good with that. He exited stage left and spent all his time at work. I had to ask friends for rides to the hospital, etc.

He respects me for raising the kids and for basically behaving like an adult I guess, when I could have gone crazy.

I just don't believe in going crazy. I have a strong sense of self-preservation, and he's a wealthy man. If I divorced him I have no doubt he'd marry his affair partner and that would be far, far worse than his just having a long term affair relationship with her.

He is what he is. I feel like I just sort of optimized what that can be, given circumstances, as opposed to shooting holes in things that I couldn't take back.

If that makes sense.

Anonymous wrote:I'm real.

My DH and I live separately with no plans for divorce. He has been having a somewhat open affair with his assistant at work for the last 12 years. That means certain people know about it, some people guess, our kids know about it, but the public at large and his family don't know. We go to family events and do holidays as a family.

We communicate every day and get along very well because I don't see where the alternative would help anyone.

I get called a troll because people say no one would put up with this. Or I get called a stupid doormat with no self-esteem. One or the other.

I don't think I'm either one.

Do you have a lover?

Btw I left my cheating husband but if he had treated me with respect I probably would have stayed.

I have posted about other relationships than my own to get thoughts on that but the facts are still actually as I know them (not made up or trolling). Sometimes I post those as first person. I do the same for parenting posts that are about my nieces / nephews or a close friend.

There is always a more positive responses and the comments are more helpful when you post as first person.

I'm real.

My DH and I live separately with no plans for divorce. He has been having a somewhat open affair with his assistant at work for the last 12 years. That means certain people know about it, some people guess, our kids know about it, but the public at large and his family don't know. We go to family events and do holidays as a family.

We communicate every day and get along very well because I don't see where the alternative would help anyone.

I get called a troll because people say no one would put up with this. Or I get called a stupid doormat with no self-esteem. One or the other.

I don't think I'm either one.

I don't post much about my personal life but, when I do, it is true.

I am no longer with my DH who suffered from bipolar disorder. Never again! It took me a long time to recover from the trauma of being with him, but I did.

Fell into a FWB situation, and developed feelings for my friend. When I was recovering, I realized quickly that he fell in love with another woman.

I am okay now. I believe things happen for a reason.

Yeah, fudging facts is smart, but every time I post it's real.

And yet, every single time, I get accused of trolling.

I do not have sex very often with my wife. Shocking, I know; but I swear to you, every word is true.

Any stories I post are absolutely true since it's anonymous and I do not include too many identifiers or I wouldn't bother to post them. I find it interesting to hear others opinions and I think, because of the anonymity, I believe they are 95% true. (call me an optimist)
btw I can tell you I am the one who posted about being harassed at work because of a major weight loss and the story about "Honey"- 100% true. But I'm old enough to have many stories about F**ked up people.

(and I posted 2 questions and found the answers helpful)

My stories about XDH are true. I often leave out certain details so nobody can identify us, but I never fudge facts.

Absolutely true here

I have been called a troll but my posts are real. I do change a few facts around because I have been outted before.

Yes. I also sometimes fudge facts so could not be outed, but otherwise stories are true.

Prolific OP here. Yes. Sometimes I fudge the facts, but rarely. Have posted about my (former) marriage and current relationship.

...on the relationship board?