I’d assume you’re not that sold on each other, or that you’re shaky about whether you’d relationship will survive his MBA program (with good reason, many people break up), or that one of you privately has some sort of deal breaker issue like an addiction that you’re trying to resolve before making it official.

Basically, there’s nothing good to be assumed by a 3 year engagement.

I'd just get married at the courthouse. Plan to throw a really nice party for a future anniversary instead.

Honestly, a wedding party is fun to have. But if life is such that you can't throw the party for THREE years, I'd just scratch that plan and just figure out how you want to get married in a way that fits into your current life.

Who cares what people think? Don't make major life decisions based on what people think of you. Terrible idea.

You're 26, there's no reason to rush. Better to get married when you can actually enjoy the whole process, rather than being stressed out over it or missing out on things you want (wedding in a certain location, honeymoon, etc) because of school conflicts.

Anonymous wrote:Why is grad school an impediment to getting married? It's a lot easier to get married while in school than when you're working. Summers off, holidays off, no big deal to miss some class.

If i were your parents or friends, i'd assume you were punting on getting married. Sorry.

Yes, this is what I am worried about.

And thanks to the PP who chimed in about their MBA as this is what my DH will be getting (at an M7)--it is definitely a very immersive/consuming/transformative experience from what I can tell and it just seems to make sense to wait rather than to rush a wedding before the program starts next Fall and not have it in the season we would like to have it (plus, don't need to add stress to moving to a new city, etc).

Once we decided to get married, we, well, wanted to be married. Our engagement was about 2 months. Yes, I think a 3 year engagement is silly, especially at your age. If you want to be married, get married already!

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Anonymous wrote:Why is grad school an impediment to getting married? It's a lot easier to get married while in school than when you're working. Summers off, holidays off, no big deal to miss some class.

If i were your parents or friends, i'd assume you were punting on getting married. Sorry.

Pretty sure you didn't attend grad school.

I have a masters and a PhD and I agree with PP. I got married before he PhD and had two kids during the PhD. I think it was much better this. My work was very flexible and while I did not have any maternity leave, I never worked full time u til the kids were 2 and 4. Loved it! During the PhD I worked part time for the university so I was busy, but not 9-6 busy. My summers were much longer and spent a lot more time with my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is grad school an impediment to getting married? It's a lot easier to get married while in school than when you're working. Summers off, holidays off, no big deal to miss some class.

If i were your parents or friends, i'd assume you were punting on getting married. Sorry.

Pretty sure you didn't attend grad school.

+1 I did my MBA and it would have been much much much easier to have a wedding after graduation (or before entering the program). Every weekend and hour and holiday was busy or spent traveling with classmates!

Anonymous wrote:Why is grad school an impediment to getting married? It's a lot easier to get married while in school than when you're working. Summers off, holidays off, no big deal to miss some class.

If i were your parents or friends, i'd assume you were punting on getting married. Sorry.

Pretty sure you didn't attend grad school.

Why is grad school an impediment to getting married? It's a lot easier to get married while in school than when you're working. Summers off, holidays off, no big deal to miss some class.

If i were your parents or friends, i'd assume you were punting on getting married. Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Ehh if you don't want kids, why bother? Financially you're way better off being single than being married. DINKs get skewered come tax time.

Thanks, good point about the taxes. Want kids but I'm 26 so not yet.

Ehh if you don't want kids, why bother? Financially you're way better off being single than being married. DINKs get skewered come tax time.

Do what works for you.

People will wonder, people might ask, but that's life.

It won't be the end of people being nosey.

Do whatever works for you. If you're not in a rush why hurry?

Anonymous wrote:Is it crazy to wait this long? Anyone with similarly long engagements?

Thinking of doing it this way as FH is in grad school graduated in 2020 and we'd like a Fall wedding...

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Is it crazy to wait this long? Anyone with similarly long engagements?

Thinking of doing it this way as FH is in grad school graduated in 2020 and we'd like a Fall wedding...