If you are just sleeping around it does not matter.

If you want a relationship one at a time.

If you have a FWB you will not really be looking and you are obviously settling for less. It's not good to settle for less, you get comfortable with less.


I don't think I am explaining it well but if you really want to find a life partner it's not good to have a side piece.

At one time? I'd stick to one - seems less complicated. In a lifetime, sequentially? Any number is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I only sleep with one person at a time and I do not sleep with anyone unless we are in an exclusive relationship

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I don't like the feel of condoms and so never wear them. That means I can't be promiscuous and can only have sex in exclusive relationships in which we know each other well.

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Anonymous wrote:That is something you need to decide for yourself.

And ultimately I am. Just wondering what others, especially others who have been in the dating world as an older adult, may think.

I’m an outlier because my total number for intercourse is under 5. That includes one purely recreational (for me) fling after my divorce. For me, sex is just intensely intimate and even if love isn’t involved, it makes me feel connected to the person. If you feel differently, you should go with whatever feels comfortable and natural to you. However, you seem uncertain which may mean you need to think more before you act.

I genuinely don't care how many men a woman has slept with at any point through her life- as long as she is STD free.

Yes, I think one person at a time is good.

Anonymous wrote:Personally I only sleep with one person at a time and I do not sleep with anyone unless we are in an exclusive relationship

This is me too, but OP has to do what’s right for her.

How does feedback from others help? It has to be what is right for you. (And your partners).

I wouldn't sleep with anyone at this stage. It tends to cloud your judgement.

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Personally I only sleep with one person at a time and I do not sleep with anyone unless we are in an exclusive relationship

Anonymous wrote:That is something you need to decide for yourself.

And ultimately I am. Just wondering what others, especially others who have been in the dating world as an older adult, may think.

That is something you need to decide for yourself.

I am newly single and actively dating for the first time in my life. I am 35 and not interested in jumping into a serious, monogamous relationship until I feel very strong about a future with that person. I am also completely honest about this with anyone I am dating before things get close to that point. I am currently interested in four people, though not sleeping with all of them. 1-2 of them are lower on my priority list, so depending on our next couple of dates, they may not be people I want to keep around. But again, until I feel strongly about a future, I will continue to date new people as I have no interest in investing myself in something that I don't feel strongly about, not at my age. So, back to my question... In your opinion, how many people is too many to have an intimate relationship with at one time?