Anonymous
10/17/2017 13:14
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Miffed does not replace your right to make a decision, reasonable to you, 50% of the time. You may not be able to insist that he not get miffed, but you should ignore it.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 13:01
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let him be miffed. Seems like either way one of you will be peeved - why should it be you?
+1
+2
We have a similar issue, where DH will insist that he'll take care of something but doesn't. I've stopped asking him to do things and I don't consult him about stuff, I just take care of it. If he complains, I ignore him. If one of us is going to be pissy, let it be the person who doesn't actually ever get anything taken care of.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 12:59
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Anonymous wrote:Let him be miffed. Seems like either way one of you will be peeved - why should it be you?
+1
Anonymous
10/17/2017 12:06
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Anonymous wrote:We have 3 young dcs, one with SN.
How in the world is this relevant? Does every thread on DCUM have to mention someone's special needs kid? Is it like some kind of DCUM badge of honor around here?
Anonymous
10/17/2017 12:03
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Anonymous wrote:We've had several plumbing emergencies. Dh thinks he can fix things himself, which he can't. We have 3 young dcs, one with SN. When he finally calls plumber, he tolerates incompetence which causes days of prolonging the emergency. WWYD? Yesterday I called plumber myself and it was solved, but dh is miffed because he 'was going to take care of it'.
Is he cheap in other ways? Do you have financial issues?
Anonymous
10/17/2017 11:48
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
This is what I do. I tell my husband "you have until Friday to take care of it or I will". Then I take care of it Friday. He complains? Oh well you had a chance.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 10:39
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Get a list of reliable trades people like plumbers, electricians and handyman and call them yourself whenever emergencies arise.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 10:34
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Depends what the issue is. For example, if it's related to the toilet you can generally fix that yourself since toilets are simple.
Personally, I don't mess with a lot of plumbing issues because if you screw it up you're dealing with leaks that you may not be able to see.
Obviously, if the issue is minor and you can find a temporary fix until you accumulate a few issues you'll save money consolidating the issues into one trip.
Personally, I don't mess with a lot of plumbing issues because if you screw it up you're dealing with leaks that you may not be able to see.
Obviously, if the issue is minor and you can find a temporary fix until you accumulate a few issues you'll save money consolidating the issues into one trip.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 08:04
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
two great reference books
https://www.amazon.com/Dare-Repair-Do-Herself-Anything/dp/0060959843/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0060959843&pd_rd_r=Z57CFVM1MJYG969JKTY7&pd_rd_w=mhCJU&pd_rd_wg=aaTHD&psc=1&refRID=Z57CFVM1MJYG969JKTY7
http://www.homedepot.com/p/The-Home-Depot-Home-Improvement-3rd-Edition-with-DVD-0696238500/100677237?cm_mmc=Shopping%7cTHD%7cG%7c0%7cG-BASE-PLA-AllProducts%7c&gclid=EAIaIQobChMItuixvM731gIVh1YNCh1C1AZdEAQYAiABEgKYivD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&dclid=COrFssHO99YCFUa1swod-KwGPQ
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http://www.homedepot.com/p/The-Home-Depot-Home-Improvement-3rd-Edition-with-DVD-0696238500/100677237?cm_mmc=Shopping%7cTHD%7cG%7c0%7cG-BASE-PLA-AllProducts%7c&gclid=EAIaIQobChMItuixvM731gIVh1YNCh1C1AZdEAQYAiABEgKYivD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&dclid=COrFssHO99YCFUa1swod-KwGPQ
Anonymous
10/17/2017 07:54
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
You call plumber.
You supervise plumber’s work.
Feminism is great. We as women can do these things!
You supervise plumber’s work.
Feminism is great. We as women can do these things!
Anonymous
10/17/2017 07:48
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
This is what I've had to do, OP.
My husband has issues with money and procrastination.
What happened recently was that I brought in the car, which had been making clonking noises for a year (!), and was told the brakes and rear suspension were shot, and that it was going to be a $1K+ job.
Since I had dealt with the local mechanic, my husband was annoyed, said they were trying to get money out of me, and had a tantrum. He drove the car to "his" mechanic far away, which meant I had to fetch him in the other car, where they told him exactly the same thing (OK, it was a little cheaper). The repairs were done there.
Bottom line - I call in experts because everything would literally fall apart if I waited for him to call, and even if my husband then refuses the first quote, which he is always driven to do, it spurs him to take matters seriously and the issues finally get taken care of.
But it's really exhausting and frustrating to have to go through all that rigmarole every time!
My husband has issues with money and procrastination.
What happened recently was that I brought in the car, which had been making clonking noises for a year (!), and was told the brakes and rear suspension were shot, and that it was going to be a $1K+ job.
Since I had dealt with the local mechanic, my husband was annoyed, said they were trying to get money out of me, and had a tantrum. He drove the car to "his" mechanic far away, which meant I had to fetch him in the other car, where they told him exactly the same thing (OK, it was a little cheaper). The repairs were done there.
Bottom line - I call in experts because everything would literally fall apart if I waited for him to call, and even if my husband then refuses the first quote, which he is always driven to do, it spurs him to take matters seriously and the issues finally get taken care of.
But it's really exhausting and frustrating to have to go through all that rigmarole every time!
Anonymous
10/17/2017 07:33
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Anonymous wrote:We've had several plumbing emergencies. Dh thinks he can fix things himself, which he can't. We have 3 young dcs, one with SN. When he finally calls plumber, he tolerates incompetence which causes days of prolonging the emergency. WWYD? Yesterday I called plumber myself and it was solved, but dh is miffed because he 'was going to take care of it'.
Tell him that based on your or virus experience with the exact same issue (not fixing the plumbing) has resulted in you making an accurate prediction of future events and you opt rnto shorten the wait time and call the professional earlier rather than later.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 07:20
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Let him be miffed. Seems like either way one of you will be peeved - why should it be you?
Anonymous
10/17/2017 07:19
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
Just call it in.
Anonymous
10/17/2017 06:58
Subject: Husband won't call plumber
We've had several plumbing emergencies. Dh thinks he can fix things himself, which he can't. We have 3 young dcs, one with SN. When he finally calls plumber, he tolerates incompetence which causes days of prolonging the emergency. WWYD? Yesterday I called plumber myself and it was solved, but dh is miffed because he 'was going to take care of it'.