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Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this woman that has been hard to figure out. We met at a mutual friends housewarming party 2 months ago. We have been on a a handful of dates, and slept together 3 times. The problem is she is rarely available to hang out. We talk and text a reasonable amount, and she seems to have fun when we do go out. She is a nurse and a student ( specializing in a nursing field), and I understand she is busy, but she has turned down more dates than accepted. I know she is busy, but so am I. I would normally move on but I really like her. I would also normally take her reluctance as disinterest, but she initiates many conversations, and initiated our last 2 dates, and being intimate 1 out of the 3 times. She has also spent the night twice. I make the effort because I like her, and feel she would so the same if she was equally interested. I am 33 and done with the mind games and casual dating. I am looking for a serious relationship that will hopefully prosper into a marriage. I will talk to her about it, but want to make sure I am not making something out of nothing, or misreading signals.

Having an adult conversation is the right move. Don't overstate your position. Have you talked about exclusivity yet? That would be the first step.

Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this woman that has been hard to figure out. We met at a mutual friends housewarming party 2 months ago. We have been on a a handful of dates, and slept together 3 times. The problem is she is rarely available to hang out. We talk and text a reasonable amount, and she seems to have fun when we do go out. She is a nurse and a student ( specializing in a nursing field), and I understand she is busy, but she has turned down more dates than accepted. I know she is busy, but so am I. I would normally move on but I really like her. I would also normally take her reluctance as disinterest, but she initiates many conversations, and initiated our last 2 dates, and being intimate 1 out of the 3 times. She has also spent the night twice. I make the effort because I like her, and feel she would so the same if she was equally interested. I am 33 and done with the mind games and casual dating. I am looking for a serious relationship that will hopefully prosper into a marriage. I will talk to her about it, but want to make sure I am not making something out of nothing, or misreading signals.

Anonymous wrote:OP: unless you are a loser, don't get married. Worst thing you can do to yourself.

Anonymous wrote:She's definitely interested, but very busy. Nursing is a demanding/draining job and she probably needs some downtime after her shifts are over, plus she's working hard in classes too.

She's in a "giving" profession and needs some time to recharge.

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you just ask her? Tell her you really like her, and you are interested in pursuing a serious relationship but you can't tell what she wants. Take it from there.

Anonymous wrote:No she is not interested. She is most likely dating a few people.