Who’s known her longer you or your friend??

People are good at putting on the front they want others to see. I was friends with a compulsive, crazy liar—really bad. I was fooled for awhile until over the years nothing added up and many things were completely contradictory. Really crazy lies that a few others also noted. The more casual friends/aquantiences have only seem “the act”. They have limited time with her (usually in a more social setting) so the curtain hasn’t fallen.

I’m not excusing the friend—but maybe there is a lot you don’t know.

Stop being friends with the weirdo. Totally disrespectful of your other friend.

Anonymous wrote:Drop the nasty friend. She's trouble. Don't even think about asking her to apologize. No contact from her would be the best for your sweet friend.

This. No confrontation. Just ignore calls and texts. Tell nice friend you're dropping bad friend. Nice friend can decide for herself if she will drop her.

A true friend loves always. Love is not a feeling, because feelings change. Love is an action, it’s what we do out of love for that person. An example of how to truly love is found in The Book. And when we’ve experienced and know His love for us, we can then pass on that same love to others always. Love does no wrong.

Don't ask someone to apologize. If they were sorry they would apologize on their own.

Drop the nasty friend. She's trouble. Don't even think about asking her to apologize. No contact from her would be the best for your sweet friend.

I don't see how stating that one's mother died can be hyperbole. Either the mother is dead or she isn't. There is no exaggeration possible.

Even Drama Queens and Compulsive Liars lose family members. Your doubting friend sounds cruel. It sounds to me like she's reached the point where she has a problem equal to the drama queen.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a really melodramatic friend who is a compulsive liar. And she mostly lies to paint herself as a good put upon person or just kind of dramatic things that engender sympathy and make it seem like she has a SUPER INTERESTING life. When my brother died as a teenager she told me all about how her uncle died when she was little.

I've known her for like 35 years... most people think of her as the kindest and nicest and most genuine person on a planet. And she is s kind person which is why I'm still friends with her but she's also a compulsive liar.

Maybe this lady is a paranoid bully... or maybe she's been pulled around the block by your friend's drama so many times she actually thinks she'd lie about something like this. And that says something alarming about your friend, even if in this case the grief and loss is real and genuine.

I can see that some people are distrusting - some people say paranoid, and yes, that might be the case here. I know my friend better than the other girl knows my friend. The other girl is the type of person to say "see, I AM a good person!" -- as if she wants a medal. Truth is, she really is not a good person, based on her actions over the years. OTOH, my friend is the type of person you definitely want on your side, and of the people that know my friend, she really is impressive - she is successful and humble, and you don't see that very often. I think the other friend just has a problem with that, and tries to "take her down" because that is the type of person she is - in other words NOT good. There really isn't anything hidden or complex here, I am just debating if we should call the other friend out on it. I am a little tired of some people going along with the other friend, in order to avoid her paranoid treatment. The other friend is prone to drama, and it is exhausting for the rest of us.

In my experience little is gained from having large scale confrontations about this stuff. Tell the dead mom friend that her other friend isn't much of a real friend to her and then stop hanging out with/ talking to trash talk friend. If TT friend asks why say you think she kind of bullied DM friend and it made you uncomfortable.

There's not reason to try to become a lead role in the story of DM AND TT's friendship

Anonymous wrote:I have a really melodramatic friend who is a compulsive liar. And she mostly lies to paint herself as a good put upon person or just kind of dramatic things that engender sympathy and make it seem like she has a SUPER INTERESTING life. When my brother died as a teenager she told me all about how her uncle died when she was little.

I've known her for like 35 years... most people think of her as the kindest and nicest and most genuine person on a planet. And she is s kind person which is why I'm still friends with her but she's also a compulsive liar.

Maybe this lady is a paranoid bully... or maybe she's been pulled around the block by your friend's drama so many times she actually thinks she'd lie about something like this. And that says something alarming about your friend, even if in this case the grief and loss is real and genuine.

I can see that some people are distrusting - some people say paranoid, and yes, that might be the case here. I know my friend better than the other girl knows my friend. The other girl is the type of person to say "see, I AM a good person!" -- as if she wants a medal. Truth is, she really is not a good person, based on her actions over the years. OTOH, my friend is the type of person you definitely want on your side, and of the people that know my friend, she really is impressive - she is successful and humble, and you don't see that very often. I think the other friend just has a problem with that, and tries to "take her down" because that is the type of person she is - in other words NOT good. There really isn't anything hidden or complex here, I am just debating if we should call the other friend out on it. I am a little tired of some people going along with the other friend, in order to avoid her paranoid treatment. The other friend is prone to drama, and it is exhausting for the rest of us.

I have a really melodramatic friend who is a compulsive liar. And she mostly lies to paint herself as a good put upon person or just kind of dramatic things that engender sympathy and make it seem like she has a SUPER INTERESTING life. When my brother died as a teenager she told me all about how her uncle died when she was little.

I've known her for like 35 years... most people think of her as the kindest and nicest and most genuine person on a planet. And she is s kind person which is why I'm still friends with her but she's also a compulsive liar.

Maybe this lady is a paranoid bully... or maybe she's been pulled around the block by your friend's drama so many times she actually thinks she'd lie about something like this. And that says something alarming about your friend, even if in this case the grief and loss is real and genuine.

Anonymous wrote:My friend just lost her mother. I knew the mother, because she visited my friend several times over the years, and we saw each other at birthdays, holidays and gatherings. She was a sweet lady, sick for a few months before her death. It is always difficult to lose a parent - and in this case, also a grandparent to my friends' children. We have a mutual friend (?) who has this bizarre habit of trying to convince others that what my friend says is hyperbole. So much so, that when my friend's mother died, the other friend said "are you sure"?

The other friend has been on the attack of my friend (since before the mom died), and seems to have a problem with her (my guess is jealousy, but I am not willing to delve into it - she is very sweet, on top of going through this tremendous loss). WTH kind of response is that? Who says that? I am beginning to think the friend who is on the attack is mentally ill. We are distancing ourselves after this bizarre behavior. I am tempted to ask for her to apologize to our friend (friend hasn't mentioned it, but it was just so out of line and inappropriate, to say the least).

Should we drop it (when I say we, I am defending my sweet friend, not the nasty one)? She's like a child who learned a new word - it is just so inaccurate, as the sweet friend is probably being attacked because she is sweet (she is not stupid, she is quite accomplished, she is just not in a place right now to deal with this insult - and she also above acting like this other person).

Who the heck are you to demand an apology from one adult to another? Your 'friend' who attacks the other friend does not sound like a good friend, and that is cause not to be friends with her anymore, and you can state why. That's it.

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What is it with all these posts about "friends" who turn out to be crazy people? Is there a bored troll out today?

Of course you and your friend should drop this paranoid person. Don't speak to her again.

People behave in shocking, inappropriate ways - and posters ask why.

Anyone who intentionally attacks another person while that person is mourning is NOT A FRIEND. Anyone who intentionally attacks a person whenever they feel like it is NOT A FRIEND.

This is a no-brainer. Distance yourself from this crappy person and comfort your sweet friend. Life is too short to deal with shitty people. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you and the others in your circle for who you are, what you bring to the relationship and supports you in the good times and bad.

What is it with all these posts about "friends" who turn out to be crazy people? Is there a bored troll out today?

Of course you and your friend should drop this paranoid person. Don't speak to her again.

My friend just lost her mother. I knew the mother, because she visited my friend several times over the years, and we saw each other at birthdays, holidays and gatherings. She was a sweet lady, sick for a few months before her death. It is always difficult to lose a parent - and in this case, also a grandparent to my friends' children. We have a mutual friend (?) who has this bizarre habit of trying to convince others that what my friend says is hyperbole. So much so, that when my friend's mother died, the other friend said "are you sure"?

The other friend has been on the attack of my friend (since before the mom died), and seems to have a problem with her (my guess is jealousy, but I am not willing to delve into it - she is very sweet, on top of going through this tremendous loss). WTH kind of response is that? Who says that? I am beginning to think the friend who is on the attack is mentally ill. We are distancing ourselves after this bizarre behavior. I am tempted to ask for her to apologize to our friend (friend hasn't mentioned it, but it was just so out of line and inappropriate, to say the least).

Should we drop it (when I say we, I am defending my sweet friend, not the nasty one)? She's like a child who learned a new word - it is just so inaccurate, as the sweet friend is probably being attacked because she is sweet (she is not stupid, she is quite accomplished, she is just not in a place right now to deal with this insult - and she also above acting like this other person).