Anonymous wrote:...do you slowly become a dud yourself? Just asking as I'm getting paranoid. In a meh job for health reasons right now and have tried to keep my skills fresh with side projects and networking outside of the office. I hope that's enough but I'm not sure.
Yes, OP, you do. I'd be very careful about this; it's very hard to overcome peer pressure like that when it's such an ingrained part of the office.
I know a number of young grads who, at university, were very ambitious, aimed high, and had big goals they were working on achieving. They all got into a similar industry and within 6 months - 1 year, all ambition, drive, and desire to do anything worthwhile was gone. As long as their job was stable, even if it paid peanuts, and they didn't have to exert much effort and had time to go drinking (which quickly became their main hobby), they were happy. It's sad to see so much lost potential.