Anonymous wrote:Go alone, dump SO. And not just for this reason.

This.

Why spoil the experience by dragging him along. I hate travelling but l keep a happy face when I do as I love those people who, unfortunately, love travelling.

Why are you still with this guy?

Go alone, dump SO. And not just for this reason.

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Anonymous wrote:None of my friends can go due to no money,. child commitments, etc.

Go alone! Traveling alone is awesome. I've done it (I'm a woman) many times and highly recommend it. And I have lots of friends but it's fun to travel by yourself

To Nairobi, Kenya? I'm not sure I feel safe doing that. And it just feels like it would be more fun with someone by my side to share the moments with.

Find a tour group. There are groups out there based on age of travelers, interests, groups specifically catering to solo travelers who don't want to deal with safety/booking/logistics issues. Well worth it. You'll be among people who WANT to be where you are rather than resenting it. Most groups build in time where you're not with others too. i wouldn't do this particular trip alone with zero help on things like booking a safe hotel, traveling to see animals with experienced, reputable guides, etc. friends who have traveled there have said there are some ripoff "safaris" etc. so you need some help ensuring this is a good experience.

Do not press BF to go.

You do realize, I hope, that you and BF have huge issues that are not just about trips, right? You do see that his F-you immature tantrums are not merely about his wanting to stay home--? Please think hard about how he speaks to you ALL the time; whether he respects your choices when they're different from his; whether he ever encourages you, sincerely, to do your own thing....

I agree with many others. Do not take boyfriend. Go alone if you do not have a friend/relative who can join you. You will definitely bond with people on a Safari experience.

Getting rid of boyfriend sounds like a wise idea, too, but don't worry about that now. Just make plans for your travels.

If you think that his presence will ruin your vacation, it doesn't sound like he's someone you want to be with long term.

Travel groups in Africa are great! I backpacked through South Africa by myself and met a ton of people, many of whom had met on safaris they'd been on in the preceding weeks. To see everything you want to see, you're basically going to have to do some organized tours, so you'll end up sharing the experiences with those folks.

Go alone.
Go as part of a traveling group.
Go with a sibling or cousin.
Just go.
Do not take the BF.

Also get rid of the BF.

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Anonymous wrote:None of my friends can go due to no money,. child commitments, etc.

Go alone! Traveling alone is awesome. I've done it (I'm a woman) many times and highly recommend it. And I have lots of friends but it's fun to travel by yourself

To Nairobi, Kenya? I'm not sure I feel safe doing that. And it just feels like it would be more fun with someone by my side to share the moments with.

Anonymous wrote:None of my friends can go due to no money,. child commitments, etc.

Go alone! Traveling alone is awesome. I've done it (I'm a woman) many times and highly recommend it. And I have lots of friends but it's fun to travel by yourself

None of my friends can go due to no money,. child commitments, etc.

Go with a friend. He sounds like a loser anyway.

Go with a friend.

My SO is unemployed and has no money. He hasn't worked for over a year. I want to take a trip to Africa and visit elephants and other wildlife. I have offered to pay for it (I can save a llittle money on plane tickets, but only a little). He says he's up for it, but based on past experiences, when I've taken him places, he tends to complain and we get in arguments. I have felt like he was ruining my experiences in the past by his complaining. He acts like he would prefer being at home on his computer when I'm trying to create memories together. It's caused HUGE arguments in the past. So I'm thinking in some ways I don't want to experience this with him. He has a lot of experience in Africa, so he would be a good person to go with, but I literally have no way of knowing how he will act. He is unpredictable. He also acts ungrateful when I'm paying (which makes me mad). TO me, this would be a dream come true. I don't want anyone ruining it. In the past he's started lashing out and saying things like "F*** this, I'm out of here. I want to leave. F*** this, F*** you" etc.