Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 16:14     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 16:11     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Anonymous wrote:When I got divorced, the decision was made when I asked him, “do you still want to be married to me?” Anything other than an immediate “yes” is a “no.”


+1

This. I'm sorry, OP.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 16:09     Subject: Re:Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.


I hope you are doing the same. Don't let him outmaneuver you.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 16:09     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Certainly hope you are quickly talking to your own lawyers and safeguarding money and assets.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 16:05     Subject: Re:Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.


+1. And get his finances in order. My guess is if you asked the question, you probably know the answer.


+2
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 15:37     Subject: Re:Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.


+1. And get his finances in order. My guess is if you asked the question, you probably know the answer.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 15:33     Subject: Re:Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 15:14     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Without any background, how can anybody give any advice or what was happening with them? If you just had a fight and this came up for the first time, like an ultimatum from you, and there is no cheating, abuse, it was just a fight out of the blue, I would assume he was being flippant.
If your marriage has been in trouble for a while, and divorce was discussed many times, then I would think he wants a divorce.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 15:12     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
When I got divorced, the decision was made when I asked him, “do you still want to be married to me?” Anything other than an immediate “yes” is a “no.”
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 14:49     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
If his answer is to leave, I hope he's ready to take the kids for half the time starting right then. He doesn't get to drop a bomb and then go off on his own. Be ready to insist that. You're not a childcare provider for him.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 14:47     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
So you asked him this morning if he wanted to remain married, and he said he would let you know by Wednesday?
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 14:46     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Background, please.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 14:46     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
I guess it would help to know what the context was. Was this said in a marriage therapist's office? After a big fight? As he was leaving for work yesterday?
What's going on? How long have you been married and how old are the kids?

I'm sorry, OP. This sucks.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 14:44     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
Wednesday is oddly specific, but I think you should put some thought into dissolving a marriage.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2017 14:34     Subject: Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married
what would you say? Ok,fine and just make life as normal as possible for the kids? He wants to give it thought before giving me an answer.

Did it take time for your spouse to respond?

I feel like there should be some type of response available immediately when it comes to continue marriage,no?