Break up

I don't see the problem here. Break up and move on if you're not happy. You ARE allowed to do that, you know.

Cut him loose and try again if it doesn't work I'm sure he'll take you back

No, you didn't "pick" the wrong guy. For the last 5 years you have dated the wrong guy. This is so easily rectified.

Anonymous wrote:If he's still your BF after 5 years, dump him and do better.

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Why would you waste 5 years and he's still a bf?

After a few years you either dump them or get married. Didn't mamma teach you that?

You're 30. If you want kids, it's time to fish or cut bait.

If he's still your BF after 5 years, dump him and do better.

I want a guy that impresses me and inspires me.

I want Jennifer Lawrence. But I don't think I can make that happen.

Make it happen, or don't complain that he's not riding up to your front door on a unicorn. Or settle.

What do you do to inspire and impress him?

If he knew better he wouldn't want me!

5 years later I feel like I settled.

What will be 5 years from now?

He's a boyfriend, not a life sentence. If you don't want to be with him, break up.

5 years later and he's still your boyfriend? He does sound immature.

So, what? Don't be a loser. Break it off and move on.

I think I picked the wrong guy when I was 25 and so unsure of myself. I was so insecurity and felt unworthy of love that I picked the first guy that showed me any sort of attention. I knew he was sort of aloof and immature but I thought that's good. If he knew better he wouldn't want me!

5 years later I feel like I settled. I want a guy that impresses me and inspires me. I find I have to guide my BF through life and it is tiresome. I'm not learning anything new or feeling particularly enriched.