Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 17:01     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.


And taking away one parent isn't bad?


It wasn't bad for my kids. They had every Wednesday from after school through dinner, then either Friday through Saturday after dinner or Saturday afternoon through Sunday before dinner.

This way they had one home. They knew where all their stuff was, all the time. He attends all parties, games, school events, etc. We only live an hour apart.


So, they get one home and one parent. You are basically restricting the parent to be a parent and they are more like an uncle vs. parent. Kids need equal time with both parents and be comfortable in both homes.


No. Parents want that. The vast majority of child psychologists believe kids do better without all the back and forth. Unfortunately most parents are not willing to put their kids first.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 16:52     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.


And taking away one parent isn't bad?


It wasn't bad for my kids. They had every Wednesday from after school through dinner, then either Friday through Saturday after dinner or Saturday afternoon through Sunday before dinner.

This way they had one home. They knew where all their stuff was, all the time. He attends all parties, games, school events, etc. We only live an hour apart.


So, they get one home and one parent. You are basically restricting the parent to be a parent and they are more like an uncle vs. parent. Kids need equal time with both parents and be comfortable in both homes.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 15:47     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.


And taking away one parent isn't bad?


It wasn't bad for my kids. They had every Wednesday from after school through dinner, then either Friday through Saturday after dinner or Saturday afternoon through Sunday before dinner.

This way they had one home. They knew where all their stuff was, all the time. He attends all parties, games, school events, etc. We only live an hour apart.


There is no way this will be a reality for us. Both parents want to be actively involved and this doesn't sound like the other parent was involved. I'm sorry but this scenario is not the best for the kids no matter how much touting you do of them needing one home.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 15:43     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.


And taking away one parent isn't bad?


It wasn't bad for my kids. They had every Wednesday from after school through dinner, then either Friday through Saturday after dinner or Saturday afternoon through Sunday before dinner.

This way they had one home. They knew where all their stuff was, all the time. He attends all parties, games, school events, etc. We only live an hour apart.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 15:39     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
No input from others? Really curious to see what works for people.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:42     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.


And taking away one parent isn't bad?


Of course it's bad. Divorce sucks. You are trying for the least amount of damage in a damaging situation. And I say that as a divorced (and now remarried) mom.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:42     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
No experience but I have kids that age and I think they would prefer the fewer disruptions of one week on and one week off. They also love spending time with both of us though so I can also imagine each parent having dinner with them on their off weeks. Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:41     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
OP here--sorry that should have read 2-2-3 not 2-2-5.


We are trying to figure out what to do for our kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:40     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.


And taking away one parent isn't bad?
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:39     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Anonymous wrote:Is that 2 days-2days-5days or 2 weeks- 2 weeks- 5 weeks?


2 days 2 days and long weekend and repeat.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:39     Subject: Re:Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
If you're asking what is best for the CHILDREN, neither. Most experts agree that children need one home. Going back and forth is very hard on kids. So, every weekend or every other weekend is best for the child. Unfortunately, parents going through divorce rarely make decisions that are best for the children.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:36     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Is that 2 days-2days-5days or 2 weeks- 2 weeks- 5 weeks?
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:36     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
One week on and one week off is better
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 11:32     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
Does anyone have input on either of these schedules?
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2017 08:34     Subject: Custody schedule 2-2-5 versus one week on/one week off (with midweek overnight)
If you have experience with either of these schedules, please tell me what you liked or didn't like about them. Kids in this case are 6 and 8.