Anonymous wrote:Well I tell you what, if your 1st instinct was to jump on here and plead for advice as opposed to talking to dude about it then neither one of you is fit for marriage because both of your communication skills are severely lacking.

Wow! Lots of bad advice.

Of course you need to work through this in your head before you approach him.

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Anonymous wrote:How the hell do y'all find yourselves in these outrageous predicaments where you find yourselves totally taken aback about something regarding the very character and personality of someone you planned on spending your life with? Are you in such a rush to get married that you just bypass the whole "getting to know you" process? WTF?!!

3 years together, how do you force someone to tell you everything? Why do people hold back information? Why would he sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding?

Didn't you miss the tassles hanging from his nips and his unusually light gait.

Well I tell you what, if your 1st instinct was to jump on here and plead for advice as opposed to talking to dude about it then neither one of you is fit for marriage because both of your communication skills are severely lacking.

So sorry. But clearly you can't marry him. not only is he lying and cheating, but he is at best sexually confused and at worst completely gay and wants to use you as a cover. Either way, RUN.

Sorry op. You need to break this off asap. Whatever he says do not take him back. He's endangering your life and that if any potential future children. Plus he's a liar and cheat.

Anonymous wrote:He would sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding because he wants gay hook ups. What's to figure out?

You shouldn't marry this person.

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He would sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding because he wants gay hook ups. What's to figure out?

You shouldn't marry this person.

Anonymous wrote:How the hell do y'all find yourselves in these outrageous predicaments where you find yourselves totally taken aback about something regarding the very character and personality of someone you planned on spending your life with? Are you in such a rush to get married that you just bypass the whole "getting to know you" process? WTF?!!

I knew my husband for 4 years before the wedding, 3 years before the engagement. There's a lot I found out later, nothing shocking like his sexual orientation but material stuff nonetheless.

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Anonymous wrote:How the hell do y'all find yourselves in these outrageous predicaments where you find yourselves totally taken aback about something regarding the very character and personality of someone you planned on spending your life with? Are you in such a rush to get married that you just bypass the whole "getting to know you" process? WTF?!!

3 years together, how do you force someone to tell you everything? Why do people hold back information? Why would he sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding?

Speaking of holding back information have you alerted your fiance' of this recent finding or did you decide to see what the relationship experts of DCUM had to say on the subject first?
If you confronted him, what'd he say?
Curious minds want to know!

He must be bi, OP. Also sad to say -- a liar.

Talk to him, call wedding off. Do asap.

Anonymous wrote:How the hell do y'all find yourselves in these outrageous predicaments where you find yourselves totally taken aback about something regarding the very character and personality of someone you planned on spending your life with? Are you in such a rush to get married that you just bypass the whole "getting to know you" process? WTF?!!

3 years together, how do you force someone to tell you everything? Why do people hold back information? Why would he sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding?

How the hell do y'all find yourselves in these outrageous predicaments where you find yourselves totally taken aback about something regarding the very character and personality of someone you planned on spending your life with? Are you in such a rush to get married that you just bypass the whole "getting to know you" process? WTF?!!

Uh..

Sorry. Time to cancel the wedding.

So, we're getting married in 3 months and my fiance' didn't completely sign out of his email on the lap top. I saw in his inbox that he signed up for a membership to a gay dating/hook up site. That's the description on the site. The email was the link to confirm his membership. He had clicked on it. It showed his log in and password, so I logged in. He has his general location, height, weight, age filled in. His bio says "just a normal guy looking to meet normal people"

OMG.