ummm...friend should pay for ..... everything!
doesn't matter if you're both adults, you're going as a companion for her business trip, its not exactly a let's go on a girls trip.

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Why on earth does her husband object to her going along on a business trip? Are you supposed to be some sort of chaperone? Eff that.

My friend has joined me on business trips. Since my employer pays for the hotel, there's no need for my friend to pay. If we choose to extend our stay to sightsee, then we split the room 50-50 (since my employer won't cover the extended stay).

But if you are dragging her there so you won't be alone, then she should be your guest. That's different from letting a friend tag along and stay with you because she wants to visit the city.

Sorry, but I don't get why she can't go alone. I've been doing it for years and now my daughter is. We are adults and can take care of ourselves.

Anonymous wrote:You are both adults, if you want to go, expect to pay your own way. If she offers to pay, consider it a bonus.

Clearly her friend isn't an adult because an adult would be capable of going on a business yrip. And if for whatever reason is not capable of going alone would make in clear in the first 5 seconds of the conversation OP does not even need to bring her wallet except for ID.

Anonymous wrote:Friend wants to go on business trips to NYC. Her husband doesn't want her to go alone. She volunteered me. I can work from NYC as well as VA. But should my friend be the one paying for the housing costs? Or 50/50?

I think if she is ASKING you to come, she should offer to pay. You pay for everything else you consume (dinner, drinks, etc.) If you feel like picking up a meal and or drinks for her too then do so. But you weren't planning to vising NYC before she asked, so she should pay.

Anonymous wrote:I've done this with a friend. She stayed in my hotel suite that work paid for. She paid for her own way there and her food.

I have a friend who travels frequently for work and I have generous leave at my own job so I have been invited to come along to different cities, and this is how we work it. We have been close friends for years and I'm not weird so I don't need my own room.

OP here - her work is not paying, hence the question. Thanks for all the responses. It seems the majority split the costs down the middle, but some only pay transportation/food and housing is on the original planner?

If her work is paying, why would you pay?

If she's paying, offer to split or cover dinners.

I've done this with a friend. She stayed in my hotel suite that work paid for. She paid for her own way there and her food.

I do this often with a good friend and I generally share the room with her during the business trip, then we split the cost if we stay over the weekend. Sometimes one of us pays it all, then we split it evenly (hotel, food, transport) using Venmo when we get home.

You are both adults, if you want to go, expect to pay your own way. If she offers to pay, consider it a bonus.

Friend should pay housing costs for sure (unless you are picky about where you stay).

But, if you have plenty of money you could also pay if you are turning this into your own vacation. Friend SHOULD pay though.

Friend wants to go on business trips to NYC. Her husband doesn't want her to go alone. She volunteered me. I can work from NYC as well as VA. But should my friend be the one paying for the housing costs? Or 50/50?