Anonymous
08/15/2017 15:59
Subject: Families / decision making question.
The name is ... bad logic. Or maybe chasing rabbits?
Anonymous
08/15/2017 13:44
Subject: Re:Families / decision making question.
13:43 I am not OP.
Anonymous
08/15/2017 13:43
Subject: Families / decision making question.
Anonymous wrote:Until this affects you or your wallet, just shake your head and let them do thrm.
When it does affect you, politely step off the train and decline. "Oh! I was in for the hour's drive for fabulous Italian, but I can get a great burger right here. Y'all have fun! Anyone who wants to join me instead, we're going to X right around the corner."
My MIL would have a fit if we did that.
Anonymous
08/15/2017 10:10
Subject: Families / decision making question.
Until this affects you or your wallet, just shake your head and let them do them.
When it does affect you, politely step off the train and decline. "Oh! I was in for the hour's drive for fabulous Italian, but I can get a great burger right here. Y'all have fun! Anyone who wants to join me instead, we're going to X right around the corner."
When it does affect you, politely step off the train and decline. "Oh! I was in for the hour's drive for fabulous Italian, but I can get a great burger right here. Y'all have fun! Anyone who wants to join me instead, we're going to X right around the corner."
Anonymous
08/15/2017 09:44
Subject: Families / decision making question.
I have to add. They do this with decisions that include money.
And in this way, they are constantly getting suckered into exactly what the retailer/seller wants them to do.
It's like mini upgrade after mini upgrade.
"Oh for just $4 extra i can add a meal to the ticket? Oh great, I'll add it. And this guidebook too? Only $2if i donate $10?it looks like the annual pass isn't much extra to what I'm paying already. Let's just buy the Platinum pass."
And in this way, they are constantly getting suckered into exactly what the retailer/seller wants them to do.
It's like mini upgrade after mini upgrade.
"Oh for just $4 extra i can add a meal to the ticket? Oh great, I'll add it. And this guidebook too? Only $2if i donate $10?it looks like the annual pass isn't much extra to what I'm paying already. Let's just buy the Platinum pass."
Anonymous
08/15/2017 09:37
Subject: Families / decision making question.
Is there a name for this phenomenon?
Certain family members fall to this pattern a lot.
"Let's go out for Italian!"
"There's a great Italian place at x, y, or z"
"Z! That place is good."
"Oh, but X is really close, and Z is so far away."
"Oh well, even though Z is far, it's worth it."
(Later)
"Hey, grandpa says he doesn't want Italian, he wants a burger joint."
"Oh ok, let's change it for him. What burger joints are there in Z area?"
They go to a burger joint in faraway Z
Like, the decision making follows a chain that doesn't lead them back to the original goal. Eating something good and close.
I have family members who do this often. Not just restaurants. Vacations, shopping, house buying. They just follow a meandering chain of thoughts and when the plan has to pivot they stay on the same chain instead of going back to the beginning.
Certain family members fall to this pattern a lot.
"Let's go out for Italian!"
"There's a great Italian place at x, y, or z"
"Z! That place is good."
"Oh, but X is really close, and Z is so far away."
"Oh well, even though Z is far, it's worth it."
(Later)
"Hey, grandpa says he doesn't want Italian, he wants a burger joint."
"Oh ok, let's change it for him. What burger joints are there in Z area?"
They go to a burger joint in faraway Z
Like, the decision making follows a chain that doesn't lead them back to the original goal. Eating something good and close.
I have family members who do this often. Not just restaurants. Vacations, shopping, house buying. They just follow a meandering chain of thoughts and when the plan has to pivot they stay on the same chain instead of going back to the beginning.