I am 61 and am conflicted about having to care for a man in their later years, remember the expiration date on men is a lot sooner than women that's why all the women are out there..

How about living for the here and now? I am 53 and not looking for anyone to take care of me down the road. The answer is to work out hard RIGHT NOW (check the stats on men who are in the highest levels of fitness for their age group in their 50s and how well they do health-wise later on. Move now to live well later.)

I would love to meet a lady in her early 50s who is looking for something real at this moment, not worried about what might happen in 10 years. I can care for myself just fine and will be able to do so in later in life.

I would like to share that future with someone I enjoyed the past decade getting to know and who is looking forward to another decade (or two) with me where we are enjoying life (and just sitting together at the doctor's office waiting on blood work.)

I am 61 and am conflicted about having to care for a man in their later years, remember the expiration date on men is a lot sooner than women that's why all the women are out there..

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 66 year old guy and definitely agree that men my age have it much better than women. Last winter I rented a place in Florida for two months that was for people 50+. I'm reasonably good looking, in decent shape, have a full head of hair and like to have fun. I was amazed by how aggressive the women were. There were probably 5 single women to every single guy so the women were very competitive. After a few weeks of really enjoying myself I began to find the whole scene to be almost surreal and then just strange to the point that I started to be reclusive just longing to meet just one really nice woman. I didn't. Also, to those who think that women over 55 don't like sex there is a place in Florida I can send you to to convince you otherwise.

Are certain parts of Florida better?

Anonymous wrote:

taketothebank wrote:

LOL - I mean, you can do whatever you want. But most men who become widowers in their later years really want the presence of a woman. Research actually shows that men are likely to remarry quicker, especially if they were in a happy marriage.

This is great. I put my keyboard on my lab so I can do sit-ups to type.

I am not that cute but it sounds like all I need to do is just survive for 5 more years until I am sixty. And then, having outlived most of the good-looking guys, I can be the ladies man I always wanted to be (and hoped being president of the high school math club would have made me.)

Haha, as long as you're willing to date a bit older (65+), you wouldn't have any issue getting all the action you want now. Just make sure you're spending time in a 55+ community. And I'll tell you, there are some GOOD looking women at those ages, they aren't all gray-hairs who haven't taken care of themselves.

Christy Brinkley is currently looking for love. I straight but she could get me to try the lady pool lol

Might want to watch OurTime. I have been on the site (I am a 53 year old man) and found that ratio of women to men is favorable if you are a man looking for a woman. In fact, I am more likely to get contacted on OurTime than Match, more likely to get contacted on Match than OKCupid.

The swipe sites (Tinder, Bumble, and Coffee Meet Bagel) seem to have more men on them than OurTime or Match. However, I do not have any solid evidence that this is true.

OP - I hope mom meets someone nice. I think that on-line dating plus meeting people in person (meet-up groups focused on an activity like hiking, drinking wine, cooking) is a good way to balance a newly forming social life.

Best of luck.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 66 year old guy and definitely agree that men my age have it much better than women. Last winter I rented a place in Florida for two months that was for people 50+. I'm reasonably good looking, in decent shape, have a full head of hair and like to have fun. I was amazed by how aggressive the women were. There were probably 5 single women to every single guy so the women were very competitive. After a few weeks of really enjoying myself I began to find the whole scene to be almost surreal and then just strange to the point that I started to be reclusive just longing to meet just one really nice woman. I didn't. Also, to those who think that women over 55 don't like sex there is a place in Florida I can send you to to convince you otherwise.

I'm a 62 year old woman who agrees with the above pp. When I was 59 I lived for a year in Florida and the eligible men were really outnumbered. Women would go to extremes to attract a man which is why plastic surgery is such a big business down there. All you needed to do was check Match to see how they were outnumbered. I went on a few dates and it was obvious that women my age were happy to hop in bed with them on the first date. DC is not a great area for women my age but it is saner.

I'm a 66 year old guy and definitely agree that men my age have it much better than women. Last winter I rented a place in Florida for two months that was for people 50+. I'm reasonably good looking, in decent shape, have a full head of hair and like to have fun. I was amazed by how aggressive the women were. There were probably 5 single women to every single guy so the women were very competitive. After a few weeks of really enjoying myself I began to find the whole scene to be almost surreal and then just strange to the point that I started to be reclusive just longing to meet just one really nice woman. I didn't. Also, to those who think that women over 55 don't like sex there is a place in Florida I can send you to to convince you otherwise.

BTW - Match is a great place for the 50+ set to meet nice people.

Haha, as long as you're willing to date a bit older (65+), you wouldn't have any issue getting all the action you want now. Just make sure you're spending time in a 55+ community. And I'll tell you, there are some GOOD looking women at those ages, they aren't all gray-hairs who haven't taken care of themselves.

There are huge number of good looking women in that age range. That has never been the problem. The problem was that they never noticed me unless their calculator broke.

Now, with all the good looking quarterback types out of the way, I can move to the front of the line to find someone to come over and watch Star Trek reruns with me.

ALL TAKERS PLEASE PM ME NOW. First come, first serve.

Please be cool with me wearing my Starfleet Captains outfit (unless we go out - I am not a total geek.)

taketothebank wrote:

LOL - I mean, you can do whatever you want. But most men who become widowers in their later years really want the presence of a woman. Research actually shows that men are likely to remarry quicker, especially if they were in a happy marriage.

This is great. I put my keyboard on my lab so I can do sit-ups to type.

I am not that cute but it sounds like all I need to do is just survive for 5 more years until I am sixty. And then, having outlived most of the good-looking guys, I can be the ladies man I always wanted to be (and hoped being president of the high school math club would have made me.)

Haha, as long as you're willing to date a bit older (65+), you wouldn't have any issue getting all the action you want now. Just make sure you're spending time in a 55+ community. And I'll tell you, there are some GOOD looking women at those ages, they aren't all gray-hairs who haven't taken care of themselves.

LOL - I mean, you can do whatever you want. But most men who become widowers in their later years really want the presence of a woman. Research actually shows that men are likely to remarry quicker, especially if they were in a happy marriage.

This is great. I put my keyboard on my lab so I can do sit-ups to type.

I am not that cute but it sounds like all I need to do is just survive for 5 more years until I am sixty. And then, having outlived most of the good-looking guys, I can be the ladies man I always wanted to be (and hoped being president of the high school math club would have made me.)

Anonymous wrote:

Honestly, it gets harder as you get into your 60's. LOTS more single women than men, due to men usually being older in relationships and dying earlier. My parents live in an adults-only community, and the widower men last about 15 seconds before they're snapped up by another woman in the neighborhood.

Hell, yes. I will double my number of weekly work-outs and work on eating better. Do the widowers get to date a good deal before they get "snapped up?"

LOL - I mean, you can do whatever you want. But most men who become widowers in their later years really want the presence of a woman. Research actually shows that men are likely to remarry quicker, especially if they were in a happy marriage.

Honestly, it gets harder as you get into your 60's. LOTS more single women than men, due to men usually being older in relationships and dying earlier. My parents live in an adults-only community, and the widower men last about 15 seconds before they're snapped up by another woman in the neighborhood.

Hell, yes. I will double my number of weekly work-outs and work on eating better. Do the widowers get to date a good deal before they get "snapped up?"

Careful. They are full of romance scams. I'd go with one with a high barrier to entry, like eHarmony, although I am afraid the number of people using it is going to be too low for her to have a lot of matches -- and online dating is something of a numbers game.

Depending on your mom's personality, could be fun to go on Tinder or something similar just for shits and giggles. She couldn't take it too seriously though.

Is she involved in any community activities where she might meet men? Honestly, it gets harder as you get into your 60's. LOTS more single women than men, due to men usually being older in relationships and dying earlier. My parents live in an adults-only community, and the widower men last about 15 seconds before they're snapped up by another woman in the neighborhood.

My mom is a widow and I am trying to get her to start dating again. It's been more than 5 years since her husband passed. What are the best sites for someone in their 60s looking for companionship? Thanks for any help.