Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:33
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.
Liar. You were fine with it. Now all of a sudden you aren't. One of you coworkers or friends got flowers from her man and you felt insecure and started comparing. Enjoy your flowers.
No, I'll tell you what happened. I have always been super pragmatic so it never bothered me before. Unrelated to that, we've had some back luck since getting married - job issues on both sides, and just a lot of uncertainty and stress. So as our 3rd anniversary approached and we haven't had much luck (yet) getting our lives built like we had imagined, I said "You know what, if life is going to be such a pain in the ass, I'd at least like some flowers to cheer me up." And they are!
real life issues can't be solved with flowers. just saying...
Maybe not but you can always stop and smell the roses anyway.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:32
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.
Liar. You were fine with it. Now all of a sudden you aren't. One of you coworkers or friends got flowers from her man and you felt insecure and started comparing. Enjoy your flowers.
No, I'll tell you what happened. I have always been super pragmatic so it never bothered me before. Unrelated to that, we've had some back luck since getting married - job issues on both sides, and just a lot of uncertainty and stress. So as our 3rd anniversary approached and we haven't had much luck (yet) getting our lives built like we had imagined, I said "You know what, if life is going to be such a pain in the ass, I'd at least like some flowers to cheer me up." And they are!
real life issues can't be solved with flowers. just saying...
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:30
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.
Liar. You were fine with it. Now all of a sudden you aren't. One of you coworkers or friends got flowers from her man and you felt insecure and started comparing. Enjoy your flowers.
No, I'll tell you what happened. I have always been super pragmatic so it never bothered me before. Unrelated to that, we've had some back luck since getting married - job issues on both sides, and just a lot of uncertainty and stress. So as our 3rd anniversary approached and we haven't had much luck (yet) getting our lives built like we had imagined, I said "You know what, if life is going to be such a pain in the ass, I'd at least like some flowers to cheer me up." And they are!
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:26
Subject: Re:My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:Congrats OP - I'm glad the flowers made you happy and he put an effort in. Much better than the passive-aggressive ninnies on here who complain and complain.
+1
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:25
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.
Liar. You were fine with it. Now all of a sudden you aren't. One of you coworkers or friends got flowers from her man and you felt insecure and started comparing. Enjoy your flowers.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:25
Subject: Re:My husband has never gotten me flowers
Congrats OP - I'm glad the flowers made you happy and he put an effort in. Much better than the passive-aggressive ninnies on here who complain and complain.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:19
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:17
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
I'm glad you used your words and he listened.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:16
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:My husband insists on getting me flowers even though I tell him not to. I wish he'd just get me a cheesecake and tell me that I don't have to share.
So communicate your needs. My husband used to get me Swedish massages with the angry woman who complained about her kids while torturing my back. I never wanted to say I didn't like the massages. After a few years of her not improving, though, I told DH I did want to try a new spa. Win-win. (I do get him massages.)
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:10
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
My husband insists on getting me flowers even though I tell him not to. I wish he'd just get me a cheesecake and tell me that I don't have to share.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:10
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
Anonymous wrote:but today he did! It is our 3rd anniversary. I had told him last week that I am not ok with days like our anniversary and my birthday passing like it is no big deal. I am not looking for a diamond necklace but I would like to feel like he puts some effort into our relationship in this manner from time to time. They are beautiful! I am so glad I made this clear. I made sure to be SUPER appreciative so he enjoys the experience and repeats it
As long as you do the same for him (make a little fuss in a way HE likes on his bday) I'm all for it.
Both my DH and I prefer the gift of low expectations about gifts. So that's how we roll. If I want flowers on my bday, I buy them myself, and don't fret about the cost. It's a win win.
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:10
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
OP, nice job for communicating your needs in a way that your DH heard. Nice job to him for following through and meeting your needs.
Kudos to both of you!!!!
Don't listen to the naysayers!!
Kudos to both of you!!!!
Don't listen to the naysayers!!
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:09
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
I'm with OP too. She stated her need for reciprocal effort in the relationship. DH stepped up to the plate. What's to criticize?
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:03
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
My husband has explained he can't buy dead plants, so he buys (his favorite) potted orchids instead.
I'm so over them...
I want carnations and hydrangeas and lillies!
I'm so over them...
I want carnations and hydrangeas and lillies!
Anonymous
08/08/2017 14:01
Subject: My husband has never gotten me flowers
but today he did! It is our 3rd anniversary. I had told him last week that I am not ok with days like our anniversary and my birthday passing like it is no big deal. I am not looking for a diamond necklace but I would like to feel like he puts some effort into our relationship in this manner from time to time. They are beautiful! I am so glad I made this clear. I made sure to be SUPER appreciative so he enjoys the experience and repeats it 