MikeL
Post 07/31/2017 16:52     Subject: Re:He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
PM me.
I'll help you out.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:50     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Just have a discreet affair.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:49     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Anonymous wrote:16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.


Find a lover and don't tell him.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:32     Subject: Re:He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Have you asked him why? Does he have any idea? He ld be gay.

Agree with pp don't destroy the lives of your kids over this.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:12     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? How old?


How is this even remotely relevant?

NP here
I wouldn't ruin my kids childhood for sex.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:09     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Have you tried to initiate?
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:08     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Anonymous wrote:16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.


Change a few details and you could be my DH. Guess what, if you've been threatening divorce for years then you should just pull the trigger already.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:08     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? How old?


How is this even remotely relevant?
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:05     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Do you have kids? How old?
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:04     Subject: Re:He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
What is your question exactly?

1) stay with him and have no sex. Can you do that?
2) Divorce him and find a partner and have a healthy sex life and possibly a great intimate relationship.

Personally, there is no way in hell I would let him make me celibate like that, but that's just me. No person that truly loves you would do that to you. Who the F does he think he is????
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:04     Subject: Re:He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Match him up with the other asexual lady on here!

Seriously, no apologies, get out. Don't cheat, divorce and do it the right way.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:03     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Take care of yourself. Don't ruin your family for a screw.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:03     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
So leave. He's not giving you what you want. Move on.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 16:01     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
Easy fix



Anonymous
Post 07/31/2017 15:59     Subject: He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage
16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.