Anonymous wrote:I'm a high school teacher. My students who were admitted to top schools (Ivy League and MIT) were all "stressed", had a marked "reduction in health" in the form of more colds, probably due to lack of sleep, and had "less time for friends." I don't think these kids would do it any differently if they had to go through high school again. A lot of my former kids keep in contact with me, and the kids who worked the hardest in high school are now very happy in college.
Do you want your kid's high school experience to be the peak of his/her life, a golden time of social popularity and relaxation? Paying less attention to homework will help make that happen. But I think learning when to choose mild discomfort for the sake of delayed gratification is a wise skill to enforce.
You do you.
It's funny, because IMO my classmates from high school like the ones you describe- top grades, went into ivies- I think high school and college WERE the peak of their lives. They have all, almost universally, languished post-college, or even during college, with their academic skills not really preparing them for the real world. They are all still, in our mid-30s, perpetual students, unmarried, no kids, far away from family, and don't seem to have much social life, always chasing their next degree. Or they went into a lucrative and prestigious field like finance and are completely miserable, but with lots of money to burn to try and placate their misery.
I guess there is room for different definitions of success. But I kind of shudder at your implication that your kids who decide to forgo the "mild discomfort" you describe are somehow on an inferior track in, like, LIFE, and really hope you don't ever teach one of my kids.