Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked him for change - he promised and never delivered.

Obama did the same thing to me.

Op here - that's pretty funny.

I know I should just take his apathy for what it is, but what the hell. It just hurts to much to know that he doesn't think I'm worth the work and effort. I'm his wife. Isn't that supposed to mean something?

It is supposed to mean something and the fact that is doesn't tells you this marriage is over. It sounds like there have been a few nails in the coffin of this marriage and you keep trying to pry it back open. He is mean, he is controlling, he is unfaithful and he doesn't care if you are there or not. You need some individual counselling because either your past or this marriage or the combination has led you to have very low expectations. You should walk away from this, work on yourself and then find someone who is kind, faithful and wants you as his wife.

This is hard for you because you thought it was temporary to leave. You could go back but you shouldn't. Interview divorce attorneys- they are better than therapy in the beginning of separation

Anonymous wrote:I left because he was mean, controlling, cheated. I asked him for change - he promised and never delivered. I left thinking it would be a wake up call. It's not - he doesn't care. I'm pretty upset. How to handle?

There's your problem right there. You need to re-frame this: I left because he was mean, controlling and a cheater, and I deserve so much better. He is not worthy of what I have to bring to the marriage.

Work on your self-esteem. We only get one shot at this life. Don't waste it on some jerk. You should send him a thank you note for being so clear about who he is.

Then it was the right decision to leave.

OP, you're framing as though there is something wrong with you?

The real question is what kind of idiot doesn't GAF when his wife leaves him? The bonus for your u is you already know the answer- one who is mean, controlling, and abusive.

Why do you want that for yourself? I'm betting those weren't qualities you were originally looking for in a spouse, nor are they ones you should settle for them.

You did the hard part by leaving already. Now, hold that awesome head high and find the real path you were meant to keep following. You can do thIs, and you deserve to.

The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.

Sorry to hear it. Your marriage is over. Hopefully you can find love again

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked him for change - he promised and never delivered.

Obama did the same thing to me.

Op here - that's pretty funny.

I know I should just take his apathy for what it is, but what the hell. It just hurts to much to know that he doesn't think I'm worth the work and effort. I'm his wife. Isn't that supposed to mean something?

If it doesn't mean something then that only makes it clear you were right to move out. I'm sorry, OP. It's a heartbreaker, but other posters are spot on in encouraging you to move on. If he doesn't care that you moved out then he's not worth your energy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked him for change - he promised and never delivered.

Obama did the same thing to me.

Op here - that's pretty funny.

I know I should just take his apathy for what it is, but what the hell. It just hurts to much to know that he doesn't think I'm worth the work and effort. I'm his wife. Isn't that supposed to mean something?

Anonymous wrote:I asked him for change - he promised and never delivered.

Obama did the same thing to me.

It sounds like this is really a wake up call for you. Stop wasting your time on him and move on. Stay focused on the future, not the past.

That he doesn't care means you made the right choice to leave. He's never going to change because he doesn't care about whether you're happy or not. Once you get through this, you'll be happier on your own.

Divorce and individual counseling for you. Sorry.

He doesn't care. You did the right thing. Don't play mind games. Move on with your life.

Sounds like the solution in this case is divorce.

I left because he was mean, controlling, cheated. I asked him for change - he promised and never delivered. I left thinking it would be a wake up call. It's not - he doesn't care. I'm pretty upset. How to handle?