I met them when we were in college so it was Mr. And Mrs. until we got married. It took a while to switch to using first names. Although I find I don't usually refer to them by any name in their presence - usually it's just referring to them to others where I use their names.

First names. I love them dearly but I have my own parents.

My mom does call my dad's parents Mom and Dad, but I think that started after her parents passed away. My dad's parents are pretty much the matriarch and patriarch of a huge clan on that side, all reasonably close. There isn't that closeness on my mom's side of the family, and her parents have been gone since I was a kid.

Anonymous wrote:She insisted on Mr/Mrs. so basically I called them "hey you"

If mine had insisted, I would have laughed like they were joking and call them Bob and Mary anyway.

She insisted on Mr/Mrs. so basically I called them "hey you"

First names. I remember everyone in the family calling my grandparents Mother and Daddy when I was growing up. I don't know if I could marry into a family where MIL and FIL want to be Mrs. and Mr., I think I"d need to torment them by living in sin with their child, and maybe even having an ILLEGITIMATE baby or two.

Mine are foreign. There was a bit of a language barrier. I didn't feel right calling them by their first names. I called them by an honorific and first name together. Then, when we had kids and the kids started using terms for Grandma and Grandpa, I just started saying those, too.

Married 20 years. I've called my ILs by their first names, at their insistence, for over 25 years. So, that's easy.

I have elderly parents, born in the mid 1930s; their generation was considerably more reflexively formal. My father called his FIL/MIL Mr. and Mrs. Lastname, although he loosened up a bit and later in life called them by their grandparent names.

I often call my ILs their grandparent names now, too.

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Anonymous wrote:We each asked what they would like to be called. We ended up calling them by their first names.

Although after children, they became Oma & Opa and MorMor and Poppop. I even started calling my parents Oma and Opa when my children were around.

This for us too. Our grandparent names are Mom-Mom and Pop-Pop and Granny and Coach. I actually call my dad Pop and FIL Coach now even when DS isn't around!

First name

First names.

They try to get me to call them mom and dad, but no way. I have two parents, and no one will ever fill that role but them.

Anonymous wrote:First names. I'm old enough that I don't call anyone Mr and Mrs.

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First names. I'm old enough that I don't call anyone Mr and Mrs.

Anonymous wrote:We each asked what they would like to be called. We ended up calling them by their first names.

Although after children, they became Oma & Opa and MorMor and Poppop. I even started calling my parents Oma and Opa when my children were around.

We each asked what they would like to be called. We ended up calling them by their first names.

Just curious....do you call your in laws by their first name? Or call them mom/dad?Mr./Mrs.? I refuse to call my in laws mom/dad It's just weird to me. I call them Mr./Mrs. last name...also is it a culture thing too?
Thanks!