Could it be to protect your joint assets (retirement accounts, the house, etc) in case the business fails or gets sued?

Anonymous wrote:OP again. No. Not young, childless or newlywed. I wouldn't say I have always contibuted equally because of circumstances with unpaid maternity leave, and I have student loan debt and he does not. But I definitely am not the sit on my behind and get taken care of type.

I guess I should maybe expect divorce papers too, huh?

Not necessarily, but I would definitely be suspicious of his asking for this in the context of a well-established marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again- just trying to see if this is something that is common when a spouse comes into money? As I mentioned, this is not inheritance. It's a family business deal, which involves corporate assets and payouts.

I am no slouch and have been gainfully employed earning as much (if not more) than him since we have been together. The only time I wasn't working is when I was on maternity leave for our children together.

Sound like he's not just protecting himself then but multiple family members. If they all get post-nups I can see it being fair, it sounds unrealistic though.

Shouldn't he be more concerned about his immediate wife and family, as opposed to protecting his assets and those of this siblings/parents/whoever?
OP - this isn't good, IMO. I would not sign any kind of postnup. They require consent by both parties, and also need to be drafted by a third attorney. So you need three attorneys working on it. One representing you, one representing your spouse, and one working on the agreement. So, you have every right not to sign, and he cannot make you.
If it were me, I would tell him to GFH.

His lawyer is gonna tell him "cheaper to keep her so you better stay on her good side, sucka".

OP again. No. Not young, childless or newlywed. I wouldn't say I have always contibuted equally because of circumstances with unpaid maternity leave, and I have student loan debt and he does not. But I definitely am not the sit on my behind and get taken care of type.

I guess I should maybe expect divorce papers too, huh?

Anonymous wrote:OP again- just trying to see if this is something that is common when a spouse comes into money? As I mentioned, this is not inheritance. It's a family business deal, which involves corporate assets and payouts.

I am no slouch and have been gainfully employed earning as much (if not more) than him since we have been together. The only time I wasn't working is when I was on maternity leave for our children together.

Sound like he's not just protecting himself then but multiple family members. If they all get post-nups I can see it being fair, it sounds unrealistic though.

I opened this thread expecting you to be young childless and practically newlywed. 15 years of marriage and four children and you are contribute equally to the household? I would be extremely hurt

OP again- just trying to see if this is something that is common when a spouse comes into money? As I mentioned, this is not inheritance. It's a family business deal, which involves corporate assets and payouts.

I am no slouch and have been gainfully employed earning as much (if not more) than him since we have been together. The only time I wasn't working is when I was on maternity leave for our children together.

Anonymous wrote:If it's inheritance, he can keep it in a separate account (his name only) and it remains his property.

+1

OP again - it's not inheritance. It's a family business deal on his side involving him and multiple family members, which will potentially yield several millions of dollars over the next 10 years.

OP here. Yes, I am really flabbergasted, and - to be honest - hurt. I wasn't sure if this was something that is common nowadays?

If it's inheritance, he can keep it in a separate account (his name only) and it remains his property.

Absolutely not.

I wouldn't but that's because I have been the primary breadwinner in our family since we got married. So if all of a sudden DH came into money and decided at that point is when we should divide assets (when he's been perfectly happy to let me pay the bills to date and treats the money I earn as ours) I'd tell him to stuff it. TBH it would really taint my view of him.

DH dropped a bombshell on me this morning, and suggested that perhaps we should get a postnup. Married 15 years, and he is coming into some family money in the next few months. I honestly don't know what to think. We both work full time, and have been equal earners salary-wise (if anything, I make a little more in salary). We have four children. I was so shocked and admittedly hurt I didn't know what to say. My inclination is to say NO way.