I grew up ÛMC/global elite and am marrying a first generation college graduate from a LMC/blue collar family.

Did you grow up in Downton Abbey? Do you have a cool title (e.g., Lady Pussyfoot)?

Do the global elite have secret meetings? Do these meeting include extraterrestrials?

I grew up UMC and my husband's family was solidly MC. I lived in LA and knew celebrities and rode horses with famous people and had friends who had private jets, etc. My family wasn't nearly as rich as many of my friends, but we certainly didn't live badly. Sometimes I will say something, like relating a story, and it happened to have taken place in another country, or the person involved was someone whose name you would recognize, and my in-laws make fun of me. I have learned to bite my tongue a bit, because what I perceived as a normal comment can come across as being elitist, even if I didn't mean it that way. Over time they've learned who I am, and that I'm not defined by my past, and now we can joke about those things, but there was definitely a period during which I had to realize that some things that I would say to my friends could come across differently to people who didn't understand the world in which I grew up. My husband's lifestyle goals are more like mine than the rest of his family, and we are now UMC (no money from my family, we just work really hard), so for us it isn't an issue, but for my in-laws it sometimes is.

Based on the OP's first post, she, and her family, are probably self-congratulatory snoots. Your new inlaws are going to hate you and your family for that reason alone.

That said, marrying into different classes doesn't matter at all. As long as neither one of you (or your families) are douchebags about it.

I grew up UMC or probably even "low rich" and married a first-person-to-go-to-college-in-his-family poor DH. Like, bartering for food, no money for xmas gifts poor. Our marriage, 20 years later, is still fantastic. He was very driven when I met him, which was important to me. And we're now pretty rich ourselves. Our contact with his family is limited to a half day at thanksgiving, and we're okay with that because we don't have much in common with most of them. For years, I thought the problem was with my DH and encouraged him to make more effort with his family. But over time, I saw that they were f-ups and not particularly kind or interested in us. My DH is super tight with my family, who are not stuck up at all.

America is a classless society. Pure meritocracy.

This is me. We have no issues that are caused by this difference. My ILs live in several hours away though and our families don't really interact, so maybe that helps.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone here with experience marrying into a family from a different class?

I grew up ÛMC/global elite and am marrying a first generation college graduate from a LMC/blue collar family.

What should I know?

This used to be a more common arrangement (I don't know anyone who has done this recently), but of the ones in our family trees, the LMC family members usually don't like/get along with/resent the UMC family members. I hope you have a much better outcome!

Anonymous wrote:Who are the "global elite"?

I think it has something to do with air travel. They get to sit on the pilot's lap.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone here with experience marrying into a family from a different class?

I grew up ÛMC/global elite and am marrying a first generation college graduate from a LMC/blue collar family.

What should I know?

You should know that your sociologyeconimic background does not make you better or more deserved of respect or admiration. Your families may have a different way of relating to each other. Learn your partners and his nuclear family's love languages. They may or may not include gifts and material things. Don't be condescending, they worked hard for what they have and are proud of their and their child's accomplishments. At first, listen more than you talk (that's a good rule for anything). Good luck and congratulations.

This!!!

Who are the "global elite"?

Anonymous wrote:Anyone here with experience marrying into a family from a different class?

I grew up ÛMC/global elite and am marrying a first generation college graduate from a LMC/blue collar family.

What should I know?

You should know that your sociologyeconimic background does not make you better or more deserved of respect or admiration. Your families may have a different way of relating to each other. Learn your partners and his nuclear family's love languages. They may or may not include gifts and material things. Don't be condescending, they worked hard for what they have and are proud of their and their child's accomplishments. At first, listen more than you talk (that's a good rule for anything). Good luck and congratulations.

Your husband and in-laws don't have contact info for a single Kennedy in their cell phones. How will you ever get invited to parties?

Low success rate.

Anonymous wrote:Feeds the troll...

Lol

Feeds the troll...

Anyone here with experience marrying into a family from a different class?

I grew up ÛMC/global elite and am marrying a first generation college graduate from a LMC/blue collar family.

What should I know?