Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:40     Subject: Re:DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
We don't drink either and quite frankly... we do not have the issues you've mentioned. Your concerns are not the consequence of a "dry lifestyle." 39 years old and never??? How can that possibly be?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:31     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Anonymous wrote:I've never had an orgasm. 39 y/o.

My husband has almost no libido.

Recently I've really been wanting to focus on intimacy.

Everything I read says "have a glass of wine and" before trying anything.

Neither of us drink. What else can we do to fully relax and help with the mood?


Never during sex, or never during your entire life?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:25     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Marijuana?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:23     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone says find a sex therapist and yet no one can recommend and affordable one that's taking new patients.


Yes... that's because not many people need that kind of specialist, yet most of us know which expert is needed for which disease. Heart problem, cardiologist. Thyroid, endocrinologist. Etc, etc. No orgasm, libido issues? Sex therapist. Doesn't that seem logical to you?

And, perhaps you can do the search yourself, since you're the patient?



OP here, you're implying that I haven't done a search.


Yes. I am implying that.
I am also implying that you have learned helplessness.
I could go on.



OP could imply that you're being an ass. And lead and empty life harassing people on an anonymous online forum.

And she would be right.

OP have you experienced any sexual traumas in your life?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:21     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone says find a sex therapist and yet no one can recommend and affordable one that's taking new patients.


Yes... that's because not many people need that kind of specialist, yet most of us know which expert is needed for which disease. Heart problem, cardiologist. Thyroid, endocrinologist. Etc, etc. No orgasm, libido issues? Sex therapist. Doesn't that seem logical to you?

And, perhaps you can do the search yourself, since you're the patient?



OP here, you're implying that I haven't done a search.


Yes. I am implying that.
I am also implying that you have learned helplessness.
I could go on.

Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:19     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
And ... how do you normally unwind? Cuppa tea? Walk the dogs? Read in bed? Figure that out.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:18     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Have you two talked out loud about this problem?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:18     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone says find a sex therapist and yet no one can recommend and affordable one that's taking new patients.


Yes... that's because not many people need that kind of specialist, yet most of us know which expert is needed for which disease. Heart problem, cardiologist. Thyroid, endocrinologist. Etc, etc. No orgasm, libido issues? Sex therapist. Doesn't that seem logical to you?

And, perhaps you can do the search yourself, since you're the patient?



OP here, you're implying that I haven't done a search.


If you have, then say so.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:17     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Buy a vibrator. That's how I learned what felt good enough to give me an orgasm.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:11     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone says find a sex therapist and yet no one can recommend and affordable one that's taking new patients.


Yes... that's because not many people need that kind of specialist, yet most of us know which expert is needed for which disease. Heart problem, cardiologist. Thyroid, endocrinologist. Etc, etc. No orgasm, libido issues? Sex therapist. Doesn't that seem logical to you?

And, perhaps you can do the search yourself, since you're the patient?



OP here, you're implying that I haven't done a search.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 11:04     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Anonymous wrote:Everyone says find a sex therapist and yet no one can recommend and affordable one that's taking new patients.


Yes... that's because not many people need that kind of specialist, yet most of us know which expert is needed for which disease. Heart problem, cardiologist. Thyroid, endocrinologist. Etc, etc. No orgasm, libido issues? Sex therapist. Doesn't that seem logical to you?

And, perhaps you can do the search yourself, since you're the patient?

Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 10:57     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Everyone says find a sex therapist and yet no one can recommend and affordable one that's taking new patients.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 10:43     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic

You need a sex therapist, honestly. Your issues are much more severe than drinking wine or not drinking wine - although I certainly hope you've tried ALL options, because the therapist will ask!

Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 10:38     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
Massage? Coconut oil? Go to a hotel?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2017 10:35     Subject: DH and I don't drink: how to unwind/get romantic
I've never had an orgasm. 39 y/o.

My husband has almost no libido.

Recently I've really been wanting to focus on intimacy.

Everything I read says "have a glass of wine and" before trying anything.

Neither of us drink. What else can we do to fully relax and help with the mood?