Anonymous wrote:We are divorcing with teen kids. I am 47. This may sound weird but it is working great for me. Kids will be gone in 4 years and I won't have to "take care" of anyone but myself.

I have a good job so that makes a huge difference.

We're not quite at the divorce stage but I can forsee a similar outcome in a few years when I'm late 40s. I'm glad I got married and had kids young. My husband is great and we've had a happy and comfortable marriage but after 20+ years we've grown apart some.

I find both men and women, but especially women (probably since they do the majority of child care) look soooooo much older if they had kids young. Not just compared to their childless peers- but when they get older and things have equalized, the ones who had kids young just look more haggard to my eye. Generalizing, of course.

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Anonymous wrote:Your cats will comfort you in your twilight years.

And your husband will be enjoying a parade of 20-something callgirls and strippers.

NP. And I'll be enjoying a parade of pool boys and frat stars. Woo hoo!!!

Yeah, because all 21 year old guys are just beating down the door for a chance at some post menopausal poon.

An 50 year old woman can get laid by a 20 year old man WAY easier than the opposite.

And doesn't that fact just KILL you? With your post midlife crisis saggy balls?

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Anonymous wrote:Your cats will comfort you in your twilight years.

And your husband will be enjoying a parade of 20-something callgirls and strippers.

NP. And I'll be enjoying a parade of pool boys and frat stars. Woo hoo!!!

Yeah, because all 21 year old guys are just beating down the door for a chance at some post menopausal poon.

Married young, early 20s. Had kids in early 30s (by choice). I wouldn't trade it for anything. We had a lot of years as a couple to travel, work, buy a house, hang out with friends as a couple before having kids.

Be happy with what you have.

Anonymous wrote:Your cats will comfort you in your twilight years.

And your husband will be enjoying a parade of 20-something callgirls and strippers.

Idk about you but this sounds great to me. Kind of like Barney in How I Met Your Mother--so pathetic.

College sweethearts, lived together for 3 years but broke up in order to pursue opportunities in other areas but reunited two years later. Married at 27, had two kids and are happily married now for 30 years. One has SN so no empty nest in the near future. The most important choice of your life is your partner. One should never rush into marriage or having children.

Got married at 21, had last child by 27.

IF it works out, it is the best thing ever. But it's a big "if"! Having kids so young was a deeply isolating experience. We are white, so there's no cultural fabric of people around us who have chosen similar timelines. And we are millennials living in NYC so, needless to say, we march to the beat of our own drummer. It is not a path followed by hardly any college educated professionals, which we also are. We have always made excellent money, which is how we floated daycare payments plus saved for retirement.

We are 31 now, and most of my friends are completely jealous of the fact that I'm about to have two elementary schoolers. I have friends who wish the did what we did but, truthfully, I don't think they'd have had the dicipline to do what we've done. Our careers haven't suffered, as we will probably cross a HHI of $500,000 in a few years. That said, our social life is pretty bleak. Most of our friends are much older. We've always made decisions sort of in our own world.

Most of our friends are starting to get nervous about putting it all together, and having kids ridiculously early has, oddly, been easier on our careers than having a kid mid 30s would have been, when you're trying to make partner with a baby and toddler underfoot.

Anonymous wrote:Your cats will comfort you in your twilight years.

And your husband will be enjoying a parade of 20-something callgirls and strippers.

NP. And I'll be enjoying a parade of pool boys and frat stars. Woo hoo!!!

Anonymous wrote:Your cats will comfort you in your twilight years.

And your husband will be enjoying a parade of 20-something callgirls and strippers.

You're an ass

We started dating at 15. Dated all the way through high school and college. Got married our junior year in college at 21. I was pregnant when I graduated from college (planned) at 22. I was done having babies at 32. We are 50 years old and have been married almost 30 years. We have five children and two grandchildren. Life is good.

That's my life. You should focus on yours. There is no perfect way. We all play the hand we are dealt.

We were high school sweethearts. We dated through college and married after. It worked out well for us. We've had ups and down but we always work things out.

Your cats will comfort you in your twilight years.

And your husband will be enjoying a parade of 20-something callgirls and strippers.

We are divorcing with teen kids. I am 47. This may sound weird but it is working great for me. Kids will be gone in 4 years and I won't have to "take care" of anyone but myself.

I have a good job so that makes a huge difference.

If you are a woman who met and married your husbands in your early to mid twenties, how did it turn out?
Are you satisfied with your choice? Why or why not?
Where you also able to finish having a kid or two by early thirties? How did that work out?

I ask because as a soon to be wed 30something, I sometimes wish I was married earlier so I could have started baby making early and be done with it earlier.