As someone who works in a college, Ops wife's presentation is all too real.

We get many calls from parents asking us to check in on their child, help their child get up for school, ask for a missing person check because their child hasn't answered a text for 2 hours, and yes, we have had to remove parents from dorms as they were sleeping the room.

Many parents have always handed their child over to someone they feel is responsible for their child when they aren't present...to school, to camps, to an employer and this is the first time there is no handover to another person in charge. Parents call and ask who that person is that is now responsible for their child and when we tell them, the child is responsible for themselves, they get very upset.

There are many like Ops DW who do not cope well at all with the transition of their child (actually young adult) to college.

Pay the fifty dollars for your kid to move in early a few days. You all stay in a nearby (nice) hotel and let your wife help set up the dorm room but let your DD sleep in the dorm if she wants. Go out to lunch with your DD. This will set up an appropriate dynamic for visits in the future. You may not break that umbilical cord, but you can stretch it pretty thin.

Anonymous wrote:So your DW is anxious about the kid leaving and making some jokes? Who cares?

This must be it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

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I think many of these people grew up in the 1950s or something. Or from very low income and have nothing to move in

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

So your DW is anxious about the kid leaving and making some jokes? Who cares?

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

I don't know too many kids that would be traumatized by being put on a bus to college. Maybe the parents but definitely not the kid. When I went off to college, my classmates couldn't wait until their parents finally left them alone in their dorm room after dropping them off. Many of them didn't even have their parents with them at all.

Assuming that we are not being trolled here...

Is there any reason in particular that your wife is so concerned about your daughter? Does your daughter think that she needs that kind of help from her mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

No, this isn't real.

It sounds like your DW needs another baby...or at least the experience of creating one. Step up dude!!!

Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Did you mean rotors?

Our only child will be departing for college this Fall. She will start classes August 24. DW wakes up every morning crying "who's going to take care of my baby." She has suggested to DD that she will stay in her dorm room the first week of school to make sure DD "settles in." She says she'll put DD on friend finder so she knows where DD is at all times. I jokingly asked are you planning to go to class with her too?" She said yes. This unhealthy attitude of her mother is one reason DD is going away to college. She needs to get out. I think DW needs therapy. I would do what my parents did. They dropped me off at the firm and said bye. My brother they just put on a bus north and he didn't come until Christmas.