This is so weird. OP...the issue to focus on is what her response was (to them).

Tell us that.

Also, if you get a chance to talk to her, tell us her response to you about her friends' comments. Hopefully she's ditching those "friends."

And agree, this sounds really immature; I can't imagine even my teen kids doing this.

Does she have ghetto friends? There is no other explanation. No one with an ounce of true friendship would ever dare say these things.

At best, I'd say she has shallow friends. I think you should bring it up to her and ask her what her thoughts and feelings are. You'll learn a lot about her character from her response and what she does afterwards. And then you can decide if she is still worth marrying. Better to ask the questions and find out now than deal with a divorce later.

OP, are these all women? They sound like almost unbelievably shitty people. My goodness. Is this instagram? facebook?

Anonymous wrote:Are you ugly?

In all honesty I don't think so but I know that the camera hates me. I can not take a good picture to save my life.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure they aren't joking. The only times I have seen things like that was when a man or woman they were with was very attractive and the comments were dripping with sarcasm

no. The comments are between people that say, for example, I didn't expect her to marry a movie star type but he is so ugly...

That's really awful. Seriously, how old are the people making those comments? Not that age excuses it, but it sounds unbelievably immature. I can't even imagine my 12 yr old saying that.

How old are all of you?

I can't imagine EVER saying anything like that about my friends' spouses, certainly not to them or in a social media posting. Do I think all of them are attractive? Of course not. But I'd certainly never say that. You need to watch and see how she reacts to it, and if she doesn't, point it out to her and then see. If she blows it off, that should tell you a lot about her, her character, and her friends. And nothing good.

Whether you actually are attractive or not is completely irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure they aren't joking. The only times I have seen things like that was when a man or woman they were with was very attractive and the comments were dripping with sarcasm

no. The comments are between people that say, for example, I didn't expect her to marry a movie star type but he is so ugly...

Are you ugly?

Are you sure they aren't joking. The only times I have seen things like that was when a man or woman they were with was very attractive and the comments were dripping with sarcasm

Wtf!

Deal with her. If she isn't willing to say FU to her friends for being A holes then you have a much bigger problem.

Are these guys trying to get with her?

With friends like those, I would seriously question her judgment. How does she respond? Does she stick up for you? If she doesn't, that's a serious red flag.

Looking through social media today during a break and noticed messages on Fiancée's social media that out right said I'm ugly. These are public messages for everyone to see.
At this point I've seen about everything on social media but I can not imagine that having this sort of feedback is good for my impending marriage.
The marriage is in August and she recently started posting pictures of us together to her larger circle.
As a guy I can imagine that if I started getting feedback about my gf/fiancée/wife that she was ugly... I would cut ties but also... it might start making me wonder. Say what you will but feedback has an impact.

I'm not going to mention this to her in any way but I'm wondering...

How important are looks? Do any of you think your husbands are hot but have gfs that have told you they are ugly?