Anonymous wrote:And it's immoral to force a partner you love to deny half their sexuality, too.

If you're Bi, that pretty much implies an open marriage.

No.

If you inform your spouse before marriage you are bi and they ALSO agree to an open marriage- that's the only way it's acceptable.

You should not get married thinking bc you are bi, you are good to commit adultery.

Anonymous wrote:So they should instead live the remaining balance of their lives unfulfilled?

They should put someone else's needs above their own when it comes to that kind of fulfillment?

Sorry, no. That's insane. And incredibly selfish of their partner for expecting them to do so.

No, it's incredibly selfish to marry and create kids and then decide you want to be sexual outside of your marriage.

If you and your spouse discuss it BEFORE marriage and agree to have an open marriage, that's fine.

But if you do not do so, you cannot expect your spouse to give you permission to commit adultery.

If you want to have sex with other people and you are married, you are giving your spouse a shit sandwich ultimatum: left me cheat or I am abandoning you.

Sorry, it doesn't work that way. Ask your spouse for a divorce so you can pursue your fulfilling sex life, so that they may have an opportunity to find a person to have a committed and authentic relationship with.


Some people don't want to be exposed to the diseases and issues that people who sleep around invariably bring home.

Hey, Mr. Married Man who would jump for joy for a threesome: what if your sexy new 3some partner was into swinging, or had sexual relationships with bi men who have sexual contact with gay men?

Are you jumping with joy for HIV, herpes, genital warts?

Anonymous wrote:Does your DH know you are bi? Mine does and we found a way to make it work for both of us. I have a GF who periodically joins us. I know that that's not a good solution for most couples but so far it has worked for us.

I bet nine guys out of ten would say this is a very good solution. Hell, if my wife had a girlfriend she wanted to join us I'd be jumping for joy.

And it's immoral to force a partner you love to deny half their sexuality, too.

If you're Bi, that pretty much implies an open marriage.

Anonymous wrote:If you are are in a committed marriage, cheating is cheating.

Being bi doesn't mean cheating is ok. Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.

Why do people think same sex sex is ok in marriage?

This.

You can be bisexual, but unless you both signed on to an open marriage you are committed to the person you married.

I've been grown for quite a while. Long enough to know that this one life is the only one we get, and only fools remain unfulfilled.

Anonymous wrote:So they should instead live the remaining balance of their lives unfulfilled?

They should put someone else's needs above their own when it comes to that kind of fulfillment?

Sorry, no. That's insane. And incredibly selfish of their partner for expecting them to do so.

Grow up !

So they should instead live the remaining balance of their lives unfulfilled?

They should put someone else's needs above their own when it comes to that kind of fulfillment?

Sorry, no. That's insane. And incredibly selfish of their partner for expecting them to do so.

Anonymous wrote:That's a bit of an oversimplification, but yes, I think you get the point.

No one should give their spouse an ultimatum that they must be ok with adultery, or leave.

That's a bit of an oversimplification, but yes, I think you get the point.

Anonymous wrote:You really shouldn't limit yourself. It's not like you'll get to try again in the next life...

Tell your husband this is part of who you are, and this is what you need to feel complete as a human.

If he can't understand that, well, there's the door.

Yeah! Put your sexual needs before your husband and committed marriage! Great attitude.

Sorry honey, I dearly love you, but sex is #1. GTFO if you don't like it.

If you are are in a committed marriage, cheating is cheating.

Being bi doesn't mean cheating is ok. Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.

Why do people think same sex sex is ok in marriage?

You really shouldn't limit yourself. It's not like you'll get to try again in the next life...

Tell your husband this is part of who you are, and this is what you need to feel complete as a human.

If he can't understand that, well, there's the door.

Does your DH know you are bi? Mine does and we found a way to make it work for both of us. I have a GF who periodically joins us. I know that that's not a good solution for most couples but so far it has worked for us.

I'm a bi woman, very much in love with my DH but I had the hottest dream last night about Glennon and Abby. Woke up feeling a little sad that I'll probably never be with a woman again. Sigh.