Thank you for the replies.
Despite cost, I believe I am leaning a bit towards FET because I also feel a sort of obligation to using the embryos.

We have frozen embryos, and we are planning on thawing and testing them, then starting FET once DD is 2. My diagnosis was anovulatory PCOS, and, similar to a PP, pregnancy seems to have reset my body so that I'm ovulating now, but I'm also older (38) and would rather use the embryos we have.

I went straight to FET both times (for my second child, and now trying for my third). I had a possibility to get pregnant naturally the second time because my DX was anovulation, which was resolved after my first, but I had never tried naturally, and had frozen embryos, and just didnt feel right not trying them. Now, I am on baby #3, and I did another retrieval. Even though I could try naturally, I am 37 now, and prefer IVF with PGS.

We left things up to chance until our little girl was 18 months old, and then did a FET. We had done a bunch of IUIs and got lucky with IVF. I knew we had about zero chances of conceiving on our own but like you said, the hope was always in the back of my mind. It would have been nice to save the cost of the meds and the transfer, but I also felt an obligation to the embryos we still had left.

i didnt' have anything to freeze when my second IVF attempt worked with a day 3 fresh transfer. I had 6 arrest and not make it to day 5.
That baby is now 7 months old and I just had a freeze all last week to transfer next year. We "tried" for two months and then luckily I changed jobs after maternity leave that has IVF coverage so we decided to jump right in and do a freeze all. If that hadn't happened we were going to try for the year then figure out if we could afford IVF or just be one and done. I will say doing IVF after you already have a success was SO MUCH EASIER. All the pressure of "this has to work' was gone.

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Anonymous wrote:If your embryos were frozen at SGF you may qualify for their shared risk FET. You will still pay for meds and any other testing but you get the cycle fee back.

Are you saying that at SG with their shared risk program if you, for example, have a successful pregnancy with your first try you could come back for child #2 and still have five tries remaining that you have already paid for?

No. You only get your money back if there is no live birth once you use up all the embyros. Once you succeed you will have to pay again if you still have embryos left and want to try again.

Anonymous wrote:If your embryos were frozen at SGF you may qualify for their shared risk FET. You will still pay for meds and any other testing but you get the cycle fee back.

Are you saying that at SG with their shared risk program if you, for example, have a successful pregnancy with your first try you could come back for child #2 and still have five tries remaining that you have already paid for?

Anonymous wrote:If your embryos were frozen at SGF you may qualify for their shared risk FET. You will still pay for meds and any other testing but you get the cycle fee back.

They're at GW. Last I remember, they didn't have any shared risk initiatives. I'll have to remember to check in on that.

If your embryos were frozen at SGF you may qualify for their shared risk FET. You will still pay for meds and any other testing but you get the cycle fee back.

My dh is low everything. We have almost zero chance of ever concieving naturally with his counts. So we are going straight to FET. We have four. I think if those don't stick we will call it.

Anonymous wrote:Yes for 2 "cycles" until I was out of embryos, then it still took a another 2 years for a surprise pregnancy

2 years of actively trying?

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you do FET since you have 4 embryos?

Solely cost.

Yes for 2 "cycles" until I was out of embryos, then it still took a another 2 years for a surprise pregnancy

Why wouldn't you do FET since you have 4 embryos?

Or did you try on your own for some time (how long)? What prompted your decision?

I'm not sure if I want to go through that stress of trying, waiting, testing, etc.
But of course those miracle stories of conceiving the second child naturally ring in the back of my mind. I'd just like to hear the thoughts of others in similar shoes.
If it matters, I received dx of unex., 2 unsuccessful IUIs, a successful FET, and 4 frosties.