Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. What is your definition of a good catch?
2. Why objectify men by characterizing them as objects to be caught or acquired?

Common sense?

A good catch:

- Well rounded guy who comes from a good family
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
- Kind and generous
- Has interest and hobbies
- A good member of society


The 30 + single guys I know are either:

- Workaholics who have deep personality or commitment issues
- Loser underachievers who have low self esteem and will not amount to much

Is this OP? If so, there's probably a good reason you are still single.

What do you bring to the table, seeker of catches?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. What is your definition of a good catch?
2. Why objectify men by characterizing them as objects to be caught or acquired?

Common sense?

A good catch:

- Well rounded guy who comes from a good family
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
- Kind and generous
- Has interest and hobbies
- A good member of society


The 30 + single guys I know are either:

- Workaholics who have deep personality or commitment issues
- Loser underachievers who have low self esteem and will not amount to much

What do the two bold parts have anything to do with being a good catch or not unless you are looking for (you fill in the blank)

Do you think a guy who comes with an abusive or dysfunctional family and have them be your in laws is a valid arrangement? Do you want an ignorant grandmother for your kids or an alcoholic grandfather for them?

Do you really think a guy earning 50k at a think tank is a catch?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. What is your definition of a good catch?
2. Why objectify men by characterizing them as objects to be caught or acquired?

Common sense?

A good catch:

- Well rounded guy who comes from a good family
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
- Kind and generous
- Has interest and hobbies
- A good member of society


The 30 + single guys I know are either:

- Workaholics who have deep personality or commitment issues
- Loser underachievers who have low self esteem and will not amount to much

What do the two bold parts have anything to do with being a good catch or not unless you are looking for (you fill in the blank)

There are. You just have to laser-focus on what's important to you. I met a great guy in my early 30s after being in a relationship and subsequently divorcing a nightmare of a guy. My 20s self would not have dated him. He's not a flashy guy or the life of the party. He's a quiet, observant, sweet and we couldn't have grown up more differently. He is always there for me and patient. What are the things you are really looking for?

Anonymous wrote:Whats a girl to do?

Settle for the best you can get. Your ovaries expire soon.

Anonymous wrote:1. What is your definition of a good catch?
2. Why objectify men by characterizing them as objects to be caught or acquired?

Common sense?

A good catch:

- Well rounded guy who comes from a good family
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
- Kind and generous
- Has interest and hobbies
- A good member of society


The 30 + single guys I know are either:

- Workaholics who have deep personality or commitment issues
- Loser underachievers who have low self esteem and will not amount to much

Anonymous wrote:OP
Whatever you do don't date someone with kids. I've had so many that regretted that or who went on to marry. A nightmare of exes, steps, ex inlaws you don't want in your life or your future children's.

Tell that to all the single mothers in their 30s complaining about no good men available.

OP
Whatever you do don't date someone with kids. I've had so many that regretted that or who went on to marry. A nightmare of exes, steps, ex inlaws you don't want in your life or your future children's.

Almost half of those snatched up will end up divorced. Another percentage settled because time was running out for family planning. Many women know they have a finite time to safely have their children. They figure if it ends in divorce they have a lifetime to find another partner. The immediate goals becomes the children. And a very small percentage find a good partner. Another percentage stay married regardless because they know there are few quality men, so they play the odds.

Anonymous wrote:Spent my twenties in a relationship that wasn't a good fit. Finally broke up at 32.

It seems all the good catches are snagged up.

The ones left in the singles market are playboys or losers.

Whats a girl to do?

+1

The good catches aren't snagged up, it's just that the dating scene and methods have changed since you were looking to date in your 20's. It's all about swiping left and right nowadays (at least that's what my 30 year old single male office mate attorney is telling me--I'm a married 30 year old guy btw).

1. What is your definition of a good catch?
2. Why objectify men by characterizing them as objects to be caught or acquired?

Start living your life for you.

Spent my twenties in a relationship that wasn't a good fit. Finally broke up at 32.

It seems all the good catches are snagged up.

The ones left in the singles market are playboys or losers.

Whats a girl to do?