Yeah, I don't get this at all. This is your husband's childhood friend, whom you acknowledge is a good guy - and your husband is sad and misses him because he cut him out of his life for voting for Trump? Can't he be understanding of his friend's position? As a cop, he was probably devastated that Hilllary showed more sympathy for the mothers of criminals (or people otherwise defying the police) than the cops. I can't believe your husband would be so narrow-minded to throw away a friendship over this.

Wow OP. I guess it's a good thing you vote the same way as your DH or you would be out too.

hahahaha. ridiculous.

He's gay

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possibly low T? He may want to get it checked.

And this is why I can't quit this damn website. Hahahahahha!!

+1 Me either!

Anonymous wrote:Is it possibly low T? He may want to get it checked.

And this is why I can't quit this damn website. Hahahahahha!!

Is it possibly low T? He may want to get it checked.

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone voted for Trump doesn't mean he's a bad person - possibly just an idiot. Your DH needs to get over it....on his own. I've got a ton of friends who voted for Trump. I don't like it but I certainly understand that Hillary was a lousy alternative for many people. Tons of Trump voters were simply Hillary haters and vice versa.

NP here, it's about politics but it isn't. We all make decisions about friends that are too much like us and friends that are too different from us and where is that balance. It doesn't mean anyone is a "bad hombre" but it also doesn't mean I have to convince my friend of anything or try to understand why or vice versa. It's like if someone said cats make the best pets and someone said dogs made the best pets - I have to decide, do I accept the person that had the opposite preference or not, not try to change them. They have the same decision. And yes, how in the face the person might be and my personality can play a role, if I hate dogs and you insist on bringing your dog with you to visit me, that might be a problem. If we have the same type of personality equally blunt or equally quiet personality it may work too - like you never ask to bring your dog, so it's never in your face or we both thrive on debating about it with no resolution or I want to be convinced because I'm wavering and you are there to be the rah rah convincing person.

So to OP, I would leave it alone and let DH make his decisions.

Maybe your man is a pajama boy and he doesn't want his friend to know. Does he wear a pussy hat ? He should.

If you voted for Hillary you are even dumber

Just because someone voted for Trump doesn't mean he's a bad person - possibly just an idiot. Your DH needs to get over it....on his own. I've got a ton of friends who voted for Trump. I don't like it but I certainly understand that Hillary was a lousy alternative for many people. Tons of Trump voters were simply Hillary haters and vice versa.

Anonymous wrote:It's his relationship to manage. If he brings it up again, you might suggest they get together but agree not to talk politics. Otherwise, be supportive of his decision. He's an adult.

This.

It's his relationship to manage. If he brings it up again, you might suggest they get together but agree not to talk politics. Otherwise, be supportive of his decision. He's an adult.

Anonymous wrote:We are traveling to NYC today (his home). I was going over our plans and asked if we're seeing J, one of his oldest friends from elementary school. He said no, not this time, and gave me a funny face. When I pushed, he admitted, "J voted Trump. It's all over his Facebook page."

J is a cop, and a good one, not one of the dirty ones. We all know cops vote republican. DH has a mother, sister, wife, two daughters, etc. He's not as outspoken as I am about it, but he's a quiet feminist. So someone who abuses women should NOT be president, let alone out of jail, in DH's mind. DH further went on to say he needs some space and time from J, and maybe in the future ...

DH feels strongly and isn't going to change his mind this trip. He only gets to see J about every other year, so to skip an opportunity is a big deal. Anything I can do/say to help DH? I'm sure he's sad and missing his friend, yet I also very much appreciate the stance he's taken.

How about saying nothing and just letting him come to you when he needs/wants to? Of course he's sad and missing his friend, but likely talking about it isn't where he wants to go with this.

Of course, there is always sex or a bj.

We are traveling to NYC today (his home). I was going over our plans and asked if we're seeing J, one of his oldest friends from elementary school. He said no, not this time, and gave me a funny face. When I pushed, he admitted, "J voted Trump. It's all over his Facebook page."

J is a cop, and a good one, not one of the dirty ones. We all know cops vote republican. DH has a mother, sister, wife, two daughters, etc. He's not as outspoken as I am about it, but he's a quiet feminist. So someone who abuses women should NOT be president, let alone out of jail, in DH's mind. DH further went on to say he needs some space and time from J, and maybe in the future ...

DH feels strongly and isn't going to change his mind this trip. He only gets to see J about every other year, so to skip an opportunity is a big deal. Anything I can do/say to help DH? I'm sure he's sad and missing his friend, yet I also very much appreciate the stance he's taken.