Anonymous
Post 04/17/2017 06:54     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Strong women are not good for marriage
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 23:41     Subject: Re:Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
I like women who are low drama. I suspect most men do. I make money, I don't care about a woman's finances as long as they don't have a lot of debt, especially if they wanted money on designer stuff.

Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 22:48     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Dates are not therapy sessions. You are sitting there with a stranger assessing what you have in common. Later if you start a relationship you can share some of the uglier past. Early dates are not the time.

You also don't have to be "successful" to be attractive to a man. Your tone suggests that you have quite an ego about that, and that could also be putting men off. If you're cute and make him feel good, that's all he needs.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 22:40     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Anonymous wrote:I suspect that you were giving TMI about your previous marriage and it's problems and that turned men off. Doubt anyone cares about your financial success.


Yup.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 22:39     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Anonymous wrote:I think I had an epiphany a couple of days ago: after a long and troubled marriage I am once again ready for a new relationship. During a series of dates I realized that it is much better not to come across as fragile and emotionally needy. It was seemingly better to flaunt my financial success instead. Revealing any anxieties or insecurities seemed to scare the guy off.

So, men, is it true that you prefer successful, independent women who would not rely on you to solve their problems? If yes, this would mean that basically women would need to work out their issues on their own before they can be regarded as desirable partner material.


You need to strike a balance between sobbing on dates and only talking about your portfolio.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 22:37     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I had an epiphany a couple of days ago: after a long and troubled marriage I am once again ready for a new relationship. During a series of dates I realized that it is much better not to come across as fragile and emotionally needy. It was seemingly better to flaunt my financial success instead. Revealing any anxieties or insecurities seemed to scare the guy off.

So, men, is it true that you prefer successful, independent women who would not rely on you to solve their problems? If yes, this would mean that basically women would need to work out their issues on their own before they can be regarded as desirable partner material.


I can't imagine any male or female who wouldn't be attracted to a successful and confident person as opposed to a fragile, needy person. What's attractive about a needy person who can't solve problems?


You're silly. Women are natural caretakers and love to try to fix broken men. This is the most common theme on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 17:28     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Anonymous wrote:I think I had an epiphany a couple of days ago: after a long and troubled marriage I am once again ready for a new relationship. During a series of dates I realized that it is much better not to come across as fragile and emotionally needy. It was seemingly better to flaunt my financial success instead. Revealing any anxieties or insecurities seemed to scare the guy off.

So, men, is it true that you prefer successful, independent women who would not rely on you to solve their problems? If yes, this would mean that basically women would need to work out their issues on their own before they can be regarded as desirable partner material.


I can't imagine any male or female who wouldn't be attracted to a successful and confident person as opposed to a fragile, needy person. What's attractive about a needy person who can't solve problems?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 17:14     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Did you really think showing your insecurities was going to be seen as attractive? You are joking right?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 17:14     Subject: Re:Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
I find fragile, hurt and emotionally needy women hot. I don't find women who were married to arrogant a-holes or cheaters hot, because ultimately that is who they will seek out again.

Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 17:10     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Yes, of course. Women who can address and solve their own problems are more attractive than those that cannot.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 16:31     Subject: Re:Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
you shouldn't be "emotionally needy" on the first date or until quite a few dates. doesn't mean you should be talking about your financial success though. just be your best self.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 16:23     Subject: Re:Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
Prefer successful? No. Keeps a lid on her problems? Yes. Of course, some people count kids as problems, but that can't be helped.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 14:19     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
I suspect that you were giving TMI about your previous marriage and it's problems and that turned men off. Doubt anyone cares about your financial success.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 14:13     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
I don't know about the men (I'm a woman), but I definitely remember when that switch flipped for me in my 20s. I realized I had plenty of my own shit to deal with, and was dealing with it, thank you, and I did not need a "project" anymore.

I also realized that brooding, drinking, self-flagellating, living-in-the-past-type people are sexy in teen romances, but suck if you ever want to just enjoy your life.

So, yes, nice, well-adjusted, successful guys exist, and they want the same in a partner.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2017 14:10     Subject: Men, is it true that you prefer successful women who have already solved their own problems?
I think I had an epiphany a couple of days ago: after a long and troubled marriage I am once again ready for a new relationship. During a series of dates I realized that it is much better not to come across as fragile and emotionally needy. It was seemingly better to flaunt my financial success instead. Revealing any anxieties or insecurities seemed to scare the guy off.

So, men, is it true that you prefer successful, independent women who would not rely on you to solve their problems? If yes, this would mean that basically women would need to work out their issues on their own before they can be regarded as desirable partner material.