Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole evening/conversation sounds kind of trashy to be honest

Inviting someone to a seder at your parents' house is "trashy"?

OP here. Why in the world would a Seder evening be "trashy"? It's a beautiful service commemorating a significant historical event.

Sounds like your friendship isn't the problem. Your inability to accept Jesus Christ as your lord and savior is the problem. Why do you hate Jesus?

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited them in the first place.
But I would ditch this friendship.

Because she said that her church has a seder, and she found it interesting. I thought she was indicating that she'd enjoy experiencing a Jewish, traditional Seder. (Of course, she was free to turn the invitation down.)

I agree I don't know why you invited prostelytizers to a religious event, it puts the topic on the menu so to speak.

I think most of this depends on how close you are with the wife, how long you've been friends, if she does this when its just the two of you. If the answers there are not very, not very long and yes then definitely sever. If you can't hang out with her without her husband than yes. If she's otherwise normal and this only comes up when the husband is around I might relegate her to acquaintance.

Anonymous wrote:I might sever it. I'd ignore the husband if at all possible and just do things with the wife, if you enjoy her company. If either keeps pushing the religion thing, stop spending time with them.

You can't reasonably expect the wife to get the husband to shut up if he's so obsessed with Jesus. Just don't spend time with the husband. And she's probably going to defend him if you raise it. It's too bad that she minimized your discomfort over it, but you put her in a tough spot by raising it.

You're definitely not obligated to go to church with them or do anything they want just because they accepted an invitation to a seder you thought they'd enjoy. He's immature and lame to bring that up.

If you can enjoy specific things with the wife only, go for it.

Thanks. Yes, you're right that I put the wife on the spot, but it's been happening for quite a while and it's getting harder to overlook. And it's gotten worse lately from both of them (although she is much more subtle). Anyway, thanks again for your feedback.

I wouldn't put any effort into it, that's for sure. And I would probably avoid him as much as possible. I wouldn't judge you if you dropped them either.

Anonymous wrote:The whole evening/conversation sounds kind of trashy to be honest

Inviting someone to a seder at your parents' house is "trashy"?

I'd ghost her

The whole evening/conversation sounds kind of trashy to be honest

I don't get why you invited them in the first place.
But I would ditch this friendship.

Do you see her socially without him? How are those interactions? I absolutely would not be spending time with her husband, who is incredibly disrespectful of your boundaries as well as your religious beliefs, but if this is a person that you get lunch with during the work day or something, I would maintain that aspect of the friendship.

Yes. Life is too short for friends who make you uber uncomfortable. Especially if there is no heaven!

I would sever the friendship, but that's just because I prefer not to spend time around people who make me uncomfortable and then blame me for that even when they're the ones being inappropriate.

I might sever it. I'd ignore the husband if at all possible and just do things with the wife, if you enjoy her company. If either keeps pushing the religion thing, stop spending time with them.

You can't reasonably expect the wife to get the husband to shut up if he's so obsessed with Jesus. Just don't spend time with the husband. And she's probably going to defend him if you raise it. It's too bad that she minimized your discomfort over it, but you put her in a tough spot by raising it.

You're definitely not obligated to go to church with them or do anything they want just because they accepted an invitation to a seder you thought they'd enjoy. He's immature and lame to bring that up.

If you can enjoy specific things with the wife only, go for it.

A Christian friend of mine, whom I've known about five years, was telling me that her church has a seder, and that she finds it interesting. After getting the OK from my parents (the hosts), I invited her (and her husband) to our first-night Seder. Both were respectful during the service, as I would expect, even though I'm sure the Hebrew was boring to them. They thanked my parents profusely for a wonderful evening, and off we headed. (We drove together.)

Not five minutes into our trip, the husband asked me, "Do you want to go to Heaven?" I immediately felt uncomfortable, since I took it as a negative judgment of the Jewish religion/tradition he had just witnessed, and answered, "I'm don't think there is a Heaven, but if there is, of course I want to go." He then answered, "then how about coming to church with us this Sunday." (His wife, my friend, said nothing.) I said, swallowing my anger, "I like my religion and want to keep it," and he said, "Well, we went to a service of yours." (The wife still said nothing, even though it was apparent I was uncomfortable.) He asked me three times to give it a chance, and I answered three times that I was not interested.

This is not the first instance I've had with the husband, btw. He is always telling me about predictions made in the Old Testament about Jesus, and one time the wife (my friend), quoted something about the only way to the Father is through the Son. I've asked them to stop, but this last experience has crossed the line. I just got off the phone with the wife (couldn't call yesterday because it was still holiday), and told her how uncomfortable I am when her husband keeps trying to get me to "accept Jesus." Her response? "Try not to be so sensitive about every little thing."

It's her response that has got me thinking I need to sever the friendship. Opinions?