Anonymous wrote:NP. I haven't tried online dating but may do so in the future. How would a woman convey that she's not trying to hook up, that she's looking for a relationship. Do you just say it in your profile?

Yes. It looks bad to gripe a lot in your profile, but that simple statement is pretty common.

Anonymous wrote:NP. I haven't tried online dating but may do so in the future. How would a woman convey that she's not trying to hook up, that she's looking for a relationship. Do you just say it in your profile?

Say it. There are a lot of men also looking for a relationship.

NP. I haven't tried online dating but may do so in the future. How would a woman convey that she's not trying to hook up, that she's looking for a relationship. Do you just say it in your profile?

I'm new to this online dating thing too. Should OP be somewhere else if she's looking for a longer-term relationship, like OK Cupid or Bumble?

M here. The thing about match is that it is, as others have pointed out, a numbers game. My experience is 20 years old (I am currently in your target age group), but what I recall is that if I want to have sex that night, I send messages out to as many women as I can. I will get a date for that night who probably would put out. That is what thee guys are doing -- putting out hooks.

Meeting people you wanted a relationship was somewhat more difficult. (I am a m. when single, I would f*** almost anyone, but I would not want a relationship with many).

Look at the profiles. See what they are saying. Do not be afraid to block.

-- a Liberal 50 scientist something who reads, likes dogs, and has a sense of humor.

Why complain about the men writing to you at all? Do your own homework and search for profiles of men you may be interested in and send a note. Really, it's that simple.

I send a message, with some actual content, to see what comes back. Maybe, tell them I did this weekend, ask about them. A lot will just reply, great how are you, or something equally vacuous. Forget them. Look for something that looks interesting to you. The right one(s) will soon coming shining through over a few messages.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm looking for men in their late 40s to late 50s, hopefully with liberal political views who has read a book in the last year.

We're difficult to come by?

Should be easy to find. Remember OP, Match is a numbers game:

for women: endless responses but have to sift through to find someone decent
for men: few responses so have to send out many

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm looking for men in their late 40s to late 50s, hopefully with liberal political views who has read a book in the last year.

We're difficult to come by?

Anonymous wrote:Be proactive. Search within your radius and age range, and text someone. Unlike women, most men receive very few messages.

+1

Be proactive. Search within your radius and age range, and text someone. Unlike women, most men receive very few messages.

OP here. I'm looking for men in their late 40s to late 50s, hopefully with liberal political views who has read a book in the last year.

The only real advice I have is to not give a second thought about ignoring anyone you're not interested in.

Yes, it is possible you are missing a diamond in the rough, but you're potentially missing out on someone with every decision you make on how to spend your time.

As a woman, let the messages come to you and quickly filter down to only someone you could conceivable see meeting for a something low key.

What are you looking for?

I've been divorced for years but haven't dated much, but now that DS is older I decided to sign up with Match. OMG. I feel like I'm in middle school again. Those winks (blech). Those "he liked your photo" emails. Those emails from inarticulate men in other time zones who don't even bother with punctuation.

So is it possible to sort through all of this to meet someone at least moderately normal and nearby? I'm overwhelmed by the sheer number of profiles to look at, even though I'm pretty specific in my profile about what I'm looking for.