Checking hormone and thyroid levels is an excellent idea, as are all kinds of things you can do to improve your health and fitness.

PP, I'm sure you don't mean to hijack this thread, so perhaps you could head over to the relationship forum and join the men complaining about their wives' low drives there. We're looking for solutions here.

I wish weed were legal where we live. Last time husband and I were having trouble just relaxing enough to enjoy sex, we were saying it would be nice to have some. A drink doesn't really work for us--too toxic with our health issues.

I find my sex drive improves when I supplement zinc. Tinkering with vitamins and minerals and the foods one eats makes a difference.

As I previously wrote, talk with your doctor. Libido is linked to hormones, as well as emotion. First, though, get all your hormones checked, including thyroid. And if your doctor won't take you seriously, find another doctor.

Yes, it's possible that your sex life has gotten into a rut. I'm there, too, but my wife doesn't want to discuss it with her doctor(a female) nor does she want to spice it up in the bedroom. Again, get labs to see if any of your hormones are low.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH lost 50 pounds, stopped smoking, started working out and then i witnessed a waitress hitting on him. My libido went into high gear and I felt great.

This concept also works for OP to lose weight, work out vigorously, and start getting hit on again. Male attention works wonders for the female libido.

This is so very true- I exited a no sex marriage with my libido down in the dumps. I didn't really care or need sex. But to show my ex what he was missing I lost a lot of weight, got fit, changed my hair etc. I felt really good about myself especially once men took notice. All of a sudden my libido came alive again and I'm really enjoying what I thought I'd never miss. Revenge is sweet but great sex is even better.

I wonder if your marriage might have been saved had you so improved yourself *before* divorcing?

Excellent and fair question PP but I was in very good shape when the sex ended. Getting out of shape was part of being unhappy. Misery finds junk food. The lack of sex wasn't the only reason for the divorce.

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone found anything that helps restore libido for the ladies?

My husband's tongue.

Try to add more flavor to your relationship. Add an other men, woman or a couple to play with.. go to a swinger clubs, find a younger guy or woman.
It will be fun!

A nice, leisurely massage warms up DW. Men are like an on/off switch. Women are like a combination lock with a very lengthy combination.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH lost 50 pounds, stopped smoking, started working out and then i witnessed a waitress hitting on him. My libido went into high gear and I felt great.

This concept also works for OP to lose weight, work out vigorously, and start getting hit on again. Male attention works wonders for the female libido.

This is so very true- I exited a no sex marriage with my libido down in the dumps. I didn't really care or need sex. But to show my ex what he was missing I lost a lot of weight, got fit, changed my hair etc. I felt really good about myself especially once men took notice. All of a sudden my libido came alive again and I'm really enjoying what I thought I'd never miss. Revenge is sweet but great sex is even better.

I wonder if your marriage might have been saved had you so improved yourself *before* divorcing?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH lost 50 pounds, stopped smoking, started working out and then i witnessed a waitress hitting on him. My libido went into high gear and I felt great.

This concept also works for OP to lose weight, work out vigorously, and start getting hit on again. Male attention works wonders for the female libido.

This is so very true- I exited a no sex marriage with my libido down in the dumps. I didn't really care or need sex. But to show my ex what he was missing I lost a lot of weight, got fit, changed my hair etc. I felt really good about myself especially once men took notice. All of a sudden my libido came alive again and I'm really enjoying what I thought I'd never miss. Revenge is sweet but great sex is even better.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH lost 50 pounds, stopped smoking, started working out and then i witnessed a waitress hitting on him. My libido went into high gear and I felt great.

This concept also works for OP to lose weight, work out vigorously, and start getting hit on again. Male attention works wonders for the female libido.

Yes, my DH lost 50 pounds, stopped smoking, started working out and then i witnessed a waitress hitting on him. My libido went into high gear and I felt great.

Have you spoken with your primary or OB/GYN? Women need a small amount of testosterone, just as men need a small amount of estrogen. My urologist starting treating women with low libido after he ran labs and found some patients had low levels of testosterone. Adequate progesterone(bio-identical, not Premarin) is also needed. Also, get your thyroid checked. TSH, free T3, free T4 and TPO(antibodies). I'm not a medical professional. Good for you for being proactive.

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whats porm?

porm

weed

Has anyone found anything that helps restore libido for the ladies?