When I was married, I had an opportunity to cheat, too, and I didn't (woman here). But I did love the feeling of being wanted, because I didn't feel like that at home. At all. While I didn't chwat, it certainly opened my eyes to what was missing in my marriage so I gave it some time at home and tried to make it work but things only got worse. Less affection, he didn't even want to try to change. So I left. (No kids.) It was the best decision of my life. So while I would never advocate for leaving one person for another--there's just so much to risk and you can't count on that other person--I DO advocate for making an honest assessment of your marriage, getting counseling if necessary, and if you're still very unhappy, leave because you're unhappy. Never leave because of another person.

No way in hell would I Facebook message a married guy even if I wanted an affair with him, unless I wanted to break up his marriage and mine. How could you possibly trust this woman with your life? That's what's at stake, OP. Don't kid yourself.

So you say you kissed? This was not a peck on the cheek, was it. Bet it was long and passionate and maybe some groping.

Still. You shut it down. And now she is pretty much hunting you down.

If you go there, you will find yourself with a hardcore stalker/lover who will think nothing of blowing up your world.

She sounds WAY too forward and the coincidences WAY too suspicious, unless you're leaving something out.

What are you looking for? Justification for what you want to do?

Fix your marriage. Take your wife or a friend to the games. Don't "let" other women kiss you.

She is trying to get something from you. Don't trust that birch.

Insane. Who knows what else she's found out about you. Lock all doors at night

She knows that you're married with kids and, yet, that didn't stop her from propositioning you. You turned her down. And now she's tracked you down via Facebook and is messaging you?

Next thing you know, you'll find a pet bunny simmering on your stove. Shut that down. Block her.

She pieced together how to find you on fb and has now sent you multiple messages? She's crazy. Ignore. Block. Don't invite this into your family.

She is from D.C. Not from fl. Was down there to watch baseball. -- op

Sounds like a weird perversion of Annie Savoy's philosophy from Bull Durham. Instead of picking one player each season to hook up with, she picks a spring training fan. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

Ignore her message and block her. Remember that the grass is greener where you water it. Reality is, while she may be fun in the beginning, long term she's going to have her flaws. If she's going after a married man she just met you can bet she's pretty unstable and will end up yelling and withholding sex more than your wife does.

Block her and spend some time working on your marriage.

Baseball chick is a pile of problems. "I will not be ignored, DAN!" Seriously, if you haven't seen Fatal Attraction recently, go watch it again. An emotionally healthy woman doesn't chase a random married man. There are plenty of single guys in Florida.

Take this as a sign to work on your marriage. Institute a regular date night, go to counseling, try a marriage retreat, do something to put your focus there and bring back some spark.

Block this lady on Facebook. There's something wrong with her - this won't end well.

What the hell, just send her a nice note and be on your way.

You haven't done anything wrong. In fact you showed impressive restraint.

Single chick who loves baseball and sex = winner

You have to take stock of the risks and benefits and decide if it is worth it to you. She took a quick assessment of you and decided you had vulnerabilities she could explore. She is on the prowl and I'm sure she has done this before. She message you knowing you're married. She is trying to break down your defenses. She probably has a mountain of baggage, hanging out at baseball parks propositioning strange men doesn't show good character. She sounds like she could be fatal attraction waiting to happen.

I took an annual personal trip to visit family and enjoy some early baseball. While watching the game, I (watching alone), was seated next to a woman roughly my age who was also alone. We started talking -- about the game and the team. We had a good time, and joked "see you at Nats Park". The next day, we ran into each other at the next game (even though it was a long drive), and found ourselves chatting some more.

Naive me was thinking this is a nice person. I do not think of myself as attractive, or anything. I am middle aged, and feel it. The mistake is when, after the game, she suggested we get dinner. I figured, I have to eat, and I had referenced my wife and kid multiple times in the conversation. At dinner, she touched my hand....I had not felt a spark like that in 30 years. She suggested we continue the evening together (my hotel for the night was nearby, she had to drive back to where she was staying; I was staying nearby for a flight). I begged off, saying 1) I probably would do something I would regret, and 2) I had an early flight the next morning.

I was going to shake hands, but she went in for the hug, and kissed me. I enjoyed it, and she could feel that I was enjoying it. We parted.

This was the first time in my life I had basically been offered sex, but turned it down. I was wondering how I could be so dense not to read the signs to shut it down earlier, and yet I was really turned on; I wanted to, but knew the consequences for me.

I had not given her contact information, but she was able to piece together enough information to find me on Facebook. She messaged me, saying she had a good time.

I have not responded; I am conflicted, and know what the right thing to do is (and will do it).

But, I get back home, and my wife starts ripping into me about something trivial that she had to do while I was away; this (the nagging and yelling) is not an uncommon thing. And we have not had relations in quite a while. I keep thinking how nice it would be to spend time with someone who is nice to me. But then, I think, the woman from Florida must have her own flaws. If nothing else, she is trying to seduce a married man.

And yet, I can not stop thinking of her. I have not responded to her messages (now plural) or her friend request. Part of me is willing to risk everything for the potential, but part of me is saying this is not who I am....

Not sure what I am looking for in posting. Probably just writing it down.