Cut it and you'll both be very relieved. It sounds totally out of control and far too long to manage. If she wants it long when she's a little older - tell her she has to brush it daily herself (several times daily I expect given the texture).

My 7yr old wanted shorter hair and since she hated me brushing it and "doing something with it" I agreed. She got an adorable bob between her ears and neck. That said, the tangles were still there. It is just her type of hair - and now I can't do anything with it.

That was a year ago. We have grown it out since and I appreciate the option to put it up now and even DD finally realized it was better to have options. Once summer hits, you will miss not putting it in buns, pony, braids etc...

We use detangled in the morning if needed. Many times I put her hair in french braids before bed too.

Anonymous wrote:
My 6 year old has hair down to her thighs. When she was a toddler and it was too short to braid, the tangles were a horror, clips wouldn't stay in, etc. Now she keeps her hair braided all day, and loose on special occasions. I use a smooth horn detangling comb (with no molding line that snags hair) and a large boar's bristle brush to brush it morning and evening. This is very important to spread out the oil evenly to protect her hair down the tips. The braids also protect her hair from dirt and tangles. On occasions when she's lost her hair elastics and it's become undone at school, I use Honest detangling spray to help undo the knots, while I work with the comb.

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OP, I was your DD at that same age. And my own DD has my same hair -- gets very tangled. Our issue is very thick, very wavy hair that tangles so badly it mats up.

Go with the haircut. My mom made me get my hair cut in about fourth grade and I resisted hard at first, but she said she couldn't deal with the tangles any longer, and once it was cut I saw the light and was glad! Short hair will save you all that brush morning and night, use this or that product, keep it braided, keep it this or that way stuff that you're trying to avoid.

Short hair also means your DD can do more to care for it herself. It WILL tangle still, even short. But it should be easier to handle. And have her use a good leave-in conditioner.

I dearly wish my own DD could have short hair again but now she's a teen and a ballet dancer, and has to keep it long enough to make buns required for dance. At least she's old enough to deal with it herself!

Get a satin pillowcase.

My 6 year old has hair down to her thighs. When she was a toddler and it was too short to braid, the tangles were a horror, clips wouldn't stay in, etc. Now she keeps her hair braided all day, and loose on special occasions. I use a smooth horn detangling comb (with no molding line that snags hair) and a large boar's bristle brush to brush it morning and evening. This is very important to spread out the oil evenly to protect her hair down the tips. The braids also protect her hair from dirt and tangles. On occasions when she's lost her hair elastics and it's become undone at school, I use Honest detangling spray to help undo the knots, while I work with the comb.

I was your daughter, my hair is still so fine and easily tangles and this was a huge battle with my mom growing up!

we opted for the Dorthy Hamill haircut for years and it made life easier but I have to say that as I grew up I realized I still had lots of curl to my hair and just needed to treat it the right way to get it to style. To this day my mom will ask if I brushed my hair today and I look at her and say- my hair is curly mom- you don't brush dry, curly hair!!

If your daughter is up for it, go for a short and easy style to save you both the stress but as she gets older look into ways she can manage her hair- I went through adolescence with frizzy puffy hair because I had no idea how to style it properly!

(FWIW I am currently trying the diva curl no poo/ conditioner and product line and am happy with it so far!)

Short. Just be prepared that it may flip up funny on the ends though. Those bobs are great styled in pics, but that baby fine hair doesn't just sit like that without a lot of teasing and styling.

Short!!! You'll thank me.

DEFINITELY cut it - that's a no-brainer. Everyone will be happier, and she'll look a hundred times better.

DD cut her hair like those photos and it is much easier to manage, for sure. Her hair isn't so much curly as it is frizzy and fine and it gets very tangly.

Note - it will not 100% cure the problem but it makes brushing etc. much easier.

Leave it long enough to be braided or put in a ponytail/bun. Leave her hair in a braid or bun overnight to minimize the tangles or a satin bonnet.

Anonymous wrote:Good conditioner and a Wet brush.

I brush my daughters hair with a spray on detangler nightly, it works great!

Op here. We have the wet brush and every other kind of brush you could imagine.

But soaking with detangler and brushing out nightly is exactly what I'm trying to avoid. Ugh. I just want to simplify this somehow. I could not brush or wash my hair for 4 days and it wouldn't be as tangled as hers after 1 night.

Good conditioner and a Wet brush.

I brush my daughters hair with a spray on detangler nightly, it works great!

My 6 yo DD has super tangly hair. It used to be ringlet curls, but as she has grown it has almost totally straightened out (except at her temples and the nape of her neck) but has remained incredibly tangly. Right now it is long enough for me to braid it, put it up in pony tails, etc. and I admit that some mornings I don't fully brush out every tangle (hello meltdown!) but instead just make it look the best I can. I really only get the tangles out fully after its been washed, which per my stylist we only do every 2nd or 3rd night.

So my question for those who have BTDT is would it be easier if I just got her a cute bob? Something like this (although her hair is not this wavy)?
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/279152876877188557/

or will that just make my problem worse because it won't actually help the tangles like I hope it will, and I will also lose my options for pony tails and braids?

TIA.