Anonymous wrote:If I were your DW I would tell you that you made a mistake

This would not motivate me at all.

Me too.

Do not tell her. No good would ever come of that. Also, you seem very dim, perhaps that's what is turning DW off.

You want to tell her for all the WRONG reasons. To make her jealous. To make her want you more. So no, do not tell her.

Anonymous wrote:Just because she invited you back for a drink with your colleagues doesn't mean she was going to have sex with you ho matter how flirty she was being. Unless she came out and said let's bang. Don't go shooting yourself in the foot just to make your wife jealous over a what if it could have happened.

Don't be ridiculous. Inviting someone over for a drink is international code for "let's do it."

My DH told me that an online friend approached him about having an affair. I can tell you it did absolutely nothing but make me feel insecure and wonder how much I could really trust him. Sure he told me that time....

There was nothing wrong with our sex life, but that sure put some insecurities into my mind. Am I not enough? Did I dare say no to something I wasn't comfortable with or would that be an excuse to cheat?

How would you word it? "Hey, so this hot 20/30 something invited me back to her hotel room. I said no."

Then what? Is she supposed to want to climb into bed with you after you throw that at her?

if it were me I wouldn't tell my wife anything. I doubt that she would suddenly become more interested in you just because someone else was. Likely it will just be files away to use later as emotional blackmail.

It is really obvious that you are totally insecure.

If "you still had it" you wouldn't need to tell your wife about it in order to get the validation you crave. She would know you had it without you telling her.

I think wife has been getting bored with you, hasn't been responding to your advances, and now you think your lame effort to provoke jealousy will fix it.

You should not have been out in that situation.

Instead of telling her, why don't you get a mallet and smash your balls with it. That would be less painful for you.

Don't tell her if you want to go out for drinks with friends again and not have her worry.

Yes tell her. She can step up or else

Just because she invited you back for a drink with your colleagues doesn't mean she was going to have sex with you ho matter how flirty she was being. Unless she came out and said let's bang. Don't go shooting yourself in the foot just to make your wife jealous over a what if it could have happened.

Maybe if she is done with you, it might be what she needs to finally move on. I think you should absolutely tell her you went out partying while she held down the fort at home.

If I were your DW I would tell you that you made a mistake

This would not motivate me at all.

Turned down the opportunity for a one night stand over the weekend with a good looking blonde. Went out after work withh some colleagues. One woman brought a friend. She was slim, tall and well proportioned. Maybe late 20s early 30s. After a few drinks, we all started dancing and she got very close. I really enjoyed how she smelled and was getting quite turned on. Anyone, towards the end of the evening she and my work colleague were leaving and she invited me to come with them backntomher place for another drink. I declined. I can't tell you how great it felt, though, to have a woman sexually interested in me. DW has been a cold fish for years, but we have kids, so there it is. I'm wondering if I told DA it would spark her jeolousy to see her mans still gotta it going on?