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Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Talk to her alone, when you are sure he want walk in and stop you, tell her everything you know. If there's something that she can easily confirm for herself, tell her to look into it but if she doesn't believe you don't lose any sleep, you did your part. Not saying anything in this situation would not be okay imo, especially with a child involved.

He will never let that happen. Also she lives in another state and comes to visit occasionally and he goes there. He makes it a state secret when she is in town so no one gets any alone time with her. Me and other co-worker had wanted to take her to dinner and drinks and chat when she was down here one time but he was having no part of that. Co-worker tried to give her her card to contact her and he got it from her and co-worker hasn't heard from her. Only way I can have chat with her may be on FB cause he isn't on FB but I am not linked with her. He isn't my boss but if he finds out I butted in, he could make work difficult.

If he's just a work acquaintance why would need alone time with his girlfriend in the first place? That's odd too.

Then how do you get this information across to her? Or maybe I don't cause it is just to hard to do and she is old enough and should know better?

Look her up on that creepy family tree site and send her a letter in the mail.

Ancestry.com? They have addresses on there? Or does the app let you message the person?

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Anonymous wrote:
Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Talk to her alone, when you are sure he want walk in and stop you, tell her everything you know. If there's something that she can easily confirm for herself, tell her to look into it but if she doesn't believe you don't lose any sleep, you did your part. Not saying anything in this situation would not be okay imo, especially with a child involved.

He will never let that happen. Also she lives in another state and comes to visit occasionally and he goes there. He makes it a state secret when she is in town so no one gets any alone time with her. Me and other co-worker had wanted to take her to dinner and drinks and chat when she was down here one time but he was having no part of that. Co-worker tried to give her her card to contact her and he got it from her and co-worker hasn't heard from her. Only way I can have chat with her may be on FB cause he isn't on FB but I am not linked with her. He isn't my boss but if he finds out I butted in, he could make work difficult.

If he's just a work acquaintance why would need alone time with his girlfriend in the first place? That's odd too.

Then how do you get this information across to her? Or maybe I don't cause it is just to hard to do and she is old enough and should know better?

Look her up on that creepy family tree site and send her a letter in the mail.

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Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Talk to her alone, when you are sure he want walk in and stop you, tell her everything you know. If there's something that she can easily confirm for herself, tell her to look into it but if she doesn't believe you don't lose any sleep, you did your part. Not saying anything in this situation would not be okay imo, especially with a child involved.

He will never let that happen. Also she lives in another state and comes to visit occasionally and he goes there. He makes it a state secret when she is in town so no one gets any alone time with her. Me and other co-worker had wanted to take her to dinner and drinks and chat when she was down here one time but he was having no part of that. Co-worker tried to give her her card to contact her and he got it from her and co-worker hasn't heard from her. Only way I can have chat with her may be on FB cause he isn't on FB but I am not linked with her. He isn't my boss but if he finds out I butted in, he could make work difficult.

If he's just a work acquaintance why would need alone time with his girlfriend in the first place? That's odd too.

Then how do you get this information across to her? Or maybe I don't cause it is just to hard to do and she is old enough and should know better?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Talk to her alone, when you are sure he want walk in and stop you, tell her everything you know. If there's something that she can easily confirm for herself, tell her to look into it but if she doesn't believe you don't lose any sleep, you did your part. Not saying anything in this situation would not be okay imo, especially with a child involved.

He will never let that happen. Also she lives in another state and comes to visit occasionally and he goes there. He makes it a state secret when she is in town so no one gets any alone time with her. Me and other co-worker had wanted to take her to dinner and drinks and chat when she was down here one time but he was having no part of that. Co-worker tried to give her her card to contact her and he got it from her and co-worker hasn't heard from her. Only way I can have chat with her may be on FB cause he isn't on FB but I am not linked with her. He isn't my boss but if he finds out I butted in, he could make work difficult.

If he's just a work acquaintance why would need alone time with his girlfriend in the first place? That's odd too.

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Anonymous wrote:
Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Talk to her alone, when you are sure he want walk in and stop you, tell her everything you know. If there's something that she can easily confirm for herself, tell her to look into it but if she doesn't believe you don't lose any sleep, you did your part. Not saying anything in this situation would not be okay imo, especially with a child involved.

He will never let that happen. Also she lives in another state and comes to visit occasionally and he goes there. He makes it a state secret when she is in town so no one gets any alone time with her. Me and other co-worker had wanted to take her to dinner and drinks and chat when she was down here one time but he was having no part of that. Co-worker tried to give her her card to contact her and he got it from her and co-worker hasn't heard from her. Only way I can have chat with her may be on FB cause he isn't on FB but I am not linked with her. He isn't my boss but if he finds out I butted in, he could make work difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know she doesn't know anything?

When I met her I started to mention something and he jumped in and deflected and later told me the list of things she didn't know.

So basically, he's your friend? And you know that he's done and planning to continue doing terrible things?

Yes, tell her. His only reason for concealing this information is that he wants to use her.

Let's not use the word friend here, acquaintance at best and only at work. The only people he knows are at work so he paraded out a few of us at lunch to make her seem like we were all bestest of friends and we aren't. Oh yeah he is going to continue his stuff after married and be able to portray himself as this great married guy.

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Anonymous wrote:
Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Talk to her alone, when you are sure he want walk in and stop you, tell her everything you know. If there's something that she can easily confirm for herself, tell her to look into it but if she doesn't believe you don't lose any sleep, you did your part. Not saying anything in this situation would not be okay imo, especially with a child involved.

Anonymous wrote:Hmm, this is tricky. I wouldn't feel right not doing anything. How do you know these folks?

My vote is to say something, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it.

I work with him, horrible braggart but for some reason he feels the need to confide in me about all his awfulness. Mostly cause he thinks I am not judging him cause I am so dumbfounded by the things he tells me I don't know what to say. So he keeps talking to me.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know she doesn't know anything?

When I met her I started to mention something and he jumped in and deflected and later told me the list of things she didn't know.

So basically, he's your friend? And you know that he's done and planning to continue doing terrible things?

Yes, tell her. His only reason for concealing this information is that he wants to use her.

Anonymous wrote:
Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

I don't know her, I have met her once. How do I even do that, why would she believe me?

Anonymous wrote:How do you know she doesn't know anything?

When I met her I started to mention something and he jumped in and deflected and later told me the list of things she didn't know.

Hmm, this is tricky. I wouldn't feel right not doing anything. How do you know these folks?

My vote is to say something, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it.

Unless you are in danger if you speak up... please tell her!!!

(How is this even a question?)

How do you know she doesn't know anything?

I know a girl that is about to marry a very bad man. I know him but I don't really know her. He is ever the narcissist and has been lying to her horribly. Every time I here him brag about how he has her wrapped around his finger and how he is going to get her to do this and that and how he hasn't told her about the financial bind he is in and needs her money so he can fix it and spend more money, I just want to scream. She doesn't know about the money situation, she doesn't know about the speeding tickets, she doesn't know about so many things I can't list them all. She is very nice but naive and has no clue what she is getting into and she has a child. Do I make an attempt to say something or just mind my business and watch this train wreck happen? Do other women have some obligation to other women to give them a heads up or do I just let the chips fall where they may. They are both in late 30's