The kids think it's bad that she's fat. Her mother thinks it's bad that she's fat.

Which do you think hurts her more?

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Anonymous wrote:If she is in 4th grade she is still mostly eating the food you have at home, right? Work with a nutritionist. It is very hard to lose weight through exercise alone.

And, yes, report the bullying. It is inappropriate but I'm not sure your daughter will be able to make it stop on her own.

My child has same issue, DD reported it- same problem kids, it's like they just don't (school) doesn't care- same ole same ole,

Absolutely let the school know. I would also do the whole Michele Obama thing of "When they go low, we go high." You are smart to not have her insult back.

As a parent, I would want to know if my kids ever said something hurtful like this and I would stop it immediately and have consequences. That is another reason to get the school involved. This hurtful behavior cannot be stopped if it is merely ignored.

Anonymous wrote:If she is in 4th grade she is still mostly eating the food you have at home, right? Work with a nutritionist. It is very hard to lose weight through exercise alone.

And, yes, report the bullying. It is inappropriate but I'm not sure your daughter will be able to make it stop on her own.

If she is in 4th grade she is still mostly eating the food you have at home, right? Work with a nutritionist. It is very hard to lose weight through exercise alone.

I would suggest OP that you watch several documentaries on Netflix about food and what exactly is in our food, processed especially. I am sorry your DD is being bullied, that is very hard to cope with. The crying right away is because she is insecure. I know you are trying your best, but you are part of the problem.

Anonymous wrote:My sister was overweight growing up. She handled the comments differently than I think most did at her age. When someone called her fat, she would just say yep and keep it moving. It got to the point that kids didn't get a kick out of it once they realized their words had no affect on her. She also worked hard to lose weight. She played multiple sports and used the home gym. Parents got the whole family involved, even my skinny self. Sister is 30 with high self esteem and normal weight.

I did that as well and yes, it does work. When kids realize there is no reaction from you, then it's not fun. But they could always move on to finding something else to pick on so just be forewarned.

I would encourage OP to read the book Carbohydrate addict kids. In truth, some kids and adults are just more sensitive to the effects of carbs and it's hard to do but scaling back will likely help out. This does not mean eliminating carbs, it means reducing carbs in the overall diet and replacing with protein. Another thing that will really help is reducing the amount of processed food. Again, this is really tough but it does help and it is so much more healthful overall. A good place for info is 100daysofrealfood blog.

Anonymous wrote:Running is the best exercise.

Talk to her teacher to stop the bullying. I think your dd should tease them back . Bullies want a target that doesn't fight back.

Running is terrible for the body - pounds your vertebrae down, hard on joints, knees, etc. Swimming is much more gentle on the body.

One option is as the PP's sister does - when someone calls her fat, just say "Yeah, we all know."

Another is to say "I can lose weight but at least I'm not mean to people like you."

Running is the best exercise.

Talk to her teacher to stop the bullying. I think your dd should tease them back . Bullies want a target that doesn't fight back.

Anonymous wrote:My sister was overweight growing up. She handled the comments differently than I think most did at her age. When someone called her fat, she would just say yep and keep it moving. It got to the point that kids didn't get a kick out of it once they realized their words had no affect on her. She also worked hard to lose weight. She played multiple sports and used the home gym. Parents got the whole family involved, even my skinny self. Sister is 30 with high self esteem and normal weight.

Something that also works is for you to say back "that's not a nice thing to say."

My sister was overweight growing up. She handled the comments differently than I think most did at her age. When someone called her fat, she would just say yep and keep it moving. It got to the point that kids didn't get a kick out of it once they realized their words had no affect on her. She also worked hard to lose weight. She played multiple sports and used the home gym. Parents got the whole family involved, even my skinny self. Sister is 30 with high self esteem and normal weight.

Stop talking about health. Stop talking about cooking classes. Stop buying junk food that she can emotionally eat.

Then, move with her. Bikes rides, hikes, long walks. Is she into sports? Get her into something active. Anything. Martial arts, soccer, whatever.

1. It's bullying and needs to be reported as such.

2. On the plus side, though, could this be the motivation she needs to get serious about changing her lifestyle?

3. Also, have you ruled out possible metabolic disorders or other things?

I knew this was coming. Truth is DD is gaining a lot of weight. I've tried (and still trying ) to change her diet to be more healthy but she's a picky, emotional eater. Who fights me on everything. I've had her take cooking classes, we talk about health often, she is now in Counselors for insecurity. In the meantime, just make sure she does a lot of exercise.

How should I advise her to respond back to those kids? I told her to ignore them, the kids she noted are schmucks. Saying something back like "look at yourself shorty", etc. Would invite more trouble and lower her to their level. Doesn't help she cries at the drop of a hat. Suggestions?