My favorite music is still 90s hip hop and rap, so I guess I can't say too much about vulgar music. I'm a productive member of society and know that I can't go around cursing all day. I would be fine with it. As long as my kids don't make me listen to trance or house or whatever that is, I'm ok.

They're not there!

He's 16 he should be able to listen to the kind of music he likes! I also have a low tolerance for the really rough rap in my car but otherwise there teenagers! My parents hated what I listened to too. We also watch Atlanta tv series about the culture- it's opened his WASPy eyes a bit and I think that's ok. We also talk about the origins of rap, black peoples using n word versus white etc to be honest it's provided an opportunity to talk about a lot of stuff- but not lecture. Example do you know what "lean" is? If not I'd get educated about it it's popular among the kids - see urban dictionary.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think the only issue I would have is listening to the music with him next to me. I just can't do it or condone the messages coming out of the rap culture. So the few times he tried to put it on in the car, I told him to find something more suitable to listen to with mom.

I don't get that at all. Why ask him to hide something you both enjoy? Isn't that hypocritical? Wouldn't it be better to find some songs you can both enjoy together? Not every rap song is vulgar/misogynistic/racially insensitive. Then you can discuss why some songs are more or less appropriate than others and the concept of artistic license and how you can enjoy art even if you don't agree with all parts of it.

I don't have a problem with the music as long as the vulgar language is censored. He knows what mom is willing to listen to. He even created a "mom approved" list.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think the only issue I would have is listening to the music with him next to me. I just can't do it or condone the messages coming out of the rap culture. So the few times he tried to put it on in the car, I told him to find something more suitable to listen to with mom.

I don't get that at all. Why ask him to hide something you both enjoy? Isn't that hypocritical? Wouldn't it be better to find some songs you can both enjoy together? Not every rap song is vulgar/misogynistic/racially insensitive. Then you can discuss why some songs are more or less appropriate than others and the concept of artistic license and how you can enjoy art even if you don't agree with all parts of it.

One of my kids listens to rap and indie folk/singer-songwriter music, and the other listens to rap exclusively. He plays the guitar and doesn't even have a single song with a guitar in it on his playlists. Sort of boggles my mind. That being said, I don't dislike all rap music. Like any music, there's a wide variety and it's not all b*tches and n*****.

OP here. I think the only issue I would have is listening to the music with him next to me. I just can't do it or condone the messages coming out of the rap culture. So the few times he tried to put it on in the car, I told him to find something more suitable to listen to with mom.

I don't censor my kids' books or music. There's not much point in trying to limit what they hear. They have phones, laptops, iPads. Some of the electronics are required for school. If I tried to censor, they might try to hide it, and I'd rather not push them into hiding small things from me, because I worry that would lead to hiding large things.

Besides, my oldest speaks 2 languages I don't speak. She frequently listens to music in those languages for extra listening practice. Who knows what they're saying. I couldn't censor it if I tried. The middle one mostly listens to nightcore (my little pony characters doing covers of pop songs at higher speed), which makes my ears bleed. She's only allowed to listen in her bedroom or with headphones. I'm more likely to have hip hop on, and be rushing to my phone to skip a song that I thought was a radio edit but was actually an explicit version.

You should try kissing a girl.

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Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS and I share a Napster account. He has his playlists and I have mine. I never hear his except for that he occasionally plays stuff in the car. But today I found a playlist called "Carpool Rap" which he plays in the car with his classmates on the way to school. OMG the language and constant use of the N word was shocking, but I have to admit I enjoyed listening to it during my workout today. I would never admit this to him. But if my husband ever knew he was listing to this stuff, he would hit the roof.

I am not going to even say anything to him about it. He's a good kid, gets good grades, stays out of trouble. He doesn't drink or do drugs (well he really doesn't have much time for any of that with his full schedule). So I will let this one slide.

How about you? Do you tolerate your kids' inappropriate music?

Wait, NAPSTER still exists!?

This was totally my reaction too! Spotify, Amazon Prime, Pandora? Sure. But Napster?!?

OP here. I know...Napster used to be Rhapsody. We have had it for years because at the time we started subscribing, Rhapsody was one of the only few compatible with Sonos. With all the playlists already done, wouldn't it be a pain to switch and recreate? Is there a tool for that?

No problem with it. It's just music...entertainment like movies and reality TV.

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Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS and I share a Napster account. He has his playlists and I have mine. I never hear his except for that he occasionally plays stuff in the car. But today I found a playlist called "Carpool Rap" which he plays in the car with his classmates on the way to school. OMG the language and constant use of the N word was shocking, but I have to admit I enjoyed listening to it during my workout today. I would never admit this to him. But if my husband ever knew he was listing to this stuff, he would hit the roof.

I am not going to even say anything to him about it. He's a good kid, gets good grades, stays out of trouble. He doesn't drink or do drugs (well he really doesn't have much time for any of that with his full schedule). So I will let this one slide.

How about you? Do you tolerate your kids' inappropriate music?

Wait, NAPSTER still exists!?

This was totally my reaction too! Spotify, Amazon Prime, Pandora? Sure. But Napster?!?

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS and I share a Napster account. He has his playlists and I have mine. I never hear his except for that he occasionally plays stuff in the car. But today I found a playlist called "Carpool Rap" which he plays in the car with his classmates on the way to school. OMG the language and constant use of the N word was shocking, but I have to admit I enjoyed listening to it during my workout today. I would never admit this to him. But if my husband ever knew he was listing to this stuff, he would hit the roof.

I am not going to even say anything to him about it. He's a good kid, gets good grades, stays out of trouble. He doesn't drink or do drugs (well he really doesn't have much time for any of that with his full schedule). So I will let this one slide.

How about you? Do you tolerate your kids' inappropriate music?

Wait, NAPSTER still exists!?

I love my kid's music. He doesn't do poppy stuff.

The biggest problem with my taste is that it hasn't evolved much since I don't have time/inclination to invest in learning more. I get bored with my ipod.

He likes Cake, OKGo, and a bunch of bands I've never heard of. He's big into some of the blue eyed soul bands around these days. He recently "discovered" the Smiths (yay). I like Rap more than he does.

My 16 year old DS and I share a Napster account. He has his playlists and I have mine. I never hear his except for that he occasionally plays stuff in the car. But today I found a playlist called "Carpool Rap" which he plays in the car with his classmates on the way to school. OMG the language and constant use of the N word was shocking, but I have to admit I enjoyed listening to it during my workout today. I would never admit this to him. But if my husband ever knew he was listing to this stuff, he would hit the roof.

I am not going to even say anything to him about it. He's a good kid, gets good grades, stays out of trouble. He doesn't drink or do drugs (well he really doesn't have much time for any of that with his full schedule). So I will let this one slide.

How about you? Do you tolerate your kids' inappropriate music?