Anonymous wrote:I assume they hate me.

Same.

The ex boyfriend will definitely get the message that you don't want anything to do with him. The friend will probably not give it a second thought.

Anonymous wrote:I assume they hate me.

Funny.

I assume they hate me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 1000+ friend requests that I've ignored and plan on continuing to ignore. I don't think anyone thinks anything of it other than "she obviously doesn't check her requests often enough." Nobody has ever called me out on it, nobody has ever had anything negative to say, so I don't think anyone looks at it as a big deal. If anything, you're making a bigger deal out of it than it really is.

1000+?!

PP here. Yeah, it's out of control. It's a mix of personal and professional contacts and I just don't care enough anymore to try and go through the list. #LazyGirlProblems

I would feel hurt/slighted (I know, I probably have too much time on my hands). But this is why I deleted Facebook. Now I know who my true friends are.

Anonymous wrote:I have 1000+ friend requests that I've ignored and plan on continuing to ignore. I don't think anyone thinks anything of it other than "she obviously doesn't check her requests often enough." Nobody has ever called me out on it, nobody has ever had anything negative to say, so I don't think anyone looks at it as a big deal. If anything, you're making a bigger deal out of it than it really is.

1000+?!

I have 1000+ friend requests that I've ignored and plan on continuing to ignore. I don't think anyone thinks anything of it other than "she obviously doesn't check her requests often enough." Nobody has ever called me out on it, nobody has ever had anything negative to say, so I don't think anyone looks at it as a big deal. If anything, you're making a bigger deal out of it than it really is.

Anonymous wrote:They probably think that you're not a frequent Facebook user and just haven't seen it. Soon they'll forget about it (if they haven't already).

This. It's more awkward if it is someone you see all the time. In which case the common thing is to say you aren't on FB all the time.

So you know, it's also possible to "unfollow" and hide posts from a FB friend on your newsfeed and put friends into different categories like co-workers, acquaintances, family and have your post go to something like friends except acquaintances group. I've had to use both when defriending would cause more drama than adjusting settings.

They probably think that you're not a frequent Facebook user and just haven't seen it. Soon they'll forget about it (if they haven't already).

I don't friend people all that often, but I always accept friend requests if I have met the person. The times I have made a friend request, I typically forget about it afterward and generally wouldn't notice if they ignored or deleted it. I suspect either of those people might realize that you aren't interested in being their friend if you never accept, and that's ok. Not everyone wants to be friends with exes or people from their past.

I ignore requests if I am not interested in someone having a view at my life - think old friends. I don't feel bad and they probably don't even notice.

FB came out when I was a freshman in college. I'm sure I sent out many friend requests that went unanswered. Can't say I ever paid close enough attention to notice. I think you are over thinking this one wayyyyy too much

I don't think anything of it. I send the request and then totally forget about it until I get a notification that they've accepted. I actually can't think of a single person who hasn't accepted my friend request, because I just don't care. I'm sure there is at least one.

Who cares if it does bother them, OP? You want them out of your life, so if it offends them a little bit, oh well. You sound slightly co-dependent on "I don't want to hurt them." Their reactions are not your responsibility - you're not actively hurting them, you're just not requesting to their request to engage/creep on you.

I am new to Facebook and have gotten two friend requests that I have ignored. One is an old boyfriend and another an old friend -- I worked really hard at getting both people out of my life but I don't want to hurt them. I just don't want anything to do with them.